Me and my boyfriend have been dating awhile, and we click so good and I couldnt as for anything more in a relationship..
My problem is that I dated his bestfriend a few years ago, and app. he is still not over it. One day he is nice..the next he is such a jackass. But this week he app. decided he really hates me. On myspace he has gone as far as calling me a hoe in front of everyone, he has sent me really mean emails, and he tells me boyfriend stuff that isnt true at all like i am mega two faced and im a hoe and so much more. I know I shouldnt think what he thinks but I'm scared my boyfriend will break up with me if he keeps this up even though he said he isnt. It also doesnt help that they are roomates, I use to go down to his apt all the time, now I dont even feel welcome anymore so I only see him but on the weekends now. I am so upset I feel so alone in this situation because my bf doesnt ever tell him to just cut it out. I love him so much but this is starting to be to much 2 take
2006-11-01 18:33:50 · 8 answers · asked by love_me0034 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...
2006-11-01 18:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, well this is why women know that their ex's friends are off-limits. Especially when the guys are more like brothers.
The fact that your boyfriend isn't sticking up for you means he isn't into your relationship as much as you are. He might even agree with some of the stuff your ex is saying, to a degree. Bottom line, they are BEST FRIENDS and roommates, and not likely to betray each other. You need to talk to the ex, hear what he's thinking/feeling and see if there's any way this can be worked out.
2006-11-02 02:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf should tell this guy where he stands. I would like to ask this, is your bf and this guy really best of buddies? if yes, i think your bf is giving so much favor to this guy to mock you and even humiliate you. I know there are some guys who are insensitive, prefer to stay away from troubles but if your bf really cares for you as you are worrying too much now, he should be a "man enough" to protect you from this jackass guy.
what i can advise is talk to your bf and to his room-mate friend. it will not hurt you if you say "sorry" to the guy, you know thats what he is waiting for, honestly, the guy is a scorned man (i bet he has still the feelings for you) i dont know exactly what happened when you dated him, why he is very much scorned..but how can he forgive and forget if you do not say sorry that you cant reciprocate the affecttion he has for you? tell him that you love your bf so much and hope that he will not be the reason for break up of your relationship. If he really consider your bf as his best friend, he should be happy that you and your bf are inlove with each other..no hard feeling ..Sometimes we have to be humble, try it, things will be okay ..goodluck
2006-11-02 03:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by hood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin it sounds to me like your boyfriend's best friend is very jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend.
One thing to remember is that guys are very territorial. It's unfortunate that he is still not over your dating days, and perhaps he's having a very hard time to see you with your boyfriend, who is his best-friend, and so he is taking his resentment out on you. Even though it's not your fault, (and don't think it is), you might want to talk to your boyfriend about the issue. Explain to him out of concern, you don't want him to think that you are dissing his best friend. For some reason guy's are very loyal to one another, so if he feels like you are talking down his best friend he may become defensive on his behalf.
Remember guys are logical too...they very rarely ever think on emotion. So just be careful as to how you approach the subject, and let him know that you want all of you to be friends, and for there to be peace. He will handle it accordingly. If he feels the need to tell off his best friend, then 5 stars for him, because that will show his loyalty is to you.
However, if you tell your boyfriend, and he does nothing, and ignores it, (which is not loving or showing you respect) or even worse, tells you that you are over exaggerating, or blames you....you might then want to re-consider who it is that you are dating, and if you are willing to made to feel like second best and to take a backseat to his bestfriend. Not only that, but if your boyfriend isn't going to support you in something like this, then ask yourself will you be able to count on him to support you with other things down the road, that may/will be much more important?
You don't need to be taking this abuse, and that's exactly what it is...it's covert abuse and I'm sorry that you've had to encounter this.
All the best to you sweetie.
2006-11-02 02:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by safireblu64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did this to yourself.
A lot of people would keep a boundary in dating a former boyfriend's friend for this very reason. You can't really expect him to severe his relationship, so if he chooses not to you'll have to decide if you can live with this. It sounds like this may not be working out for you too well...
2006-11-02 02:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot hold a person responsible for dating someone else before you came along. That's controlling and ridiculous. I think you should dump this guy because he has absolutely no respect for you or your feelings. Leave him alone and find someone who cares for you. Obviously he does not.
2006-11-02 02:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being immature and trying to make you feel insecure. Just try not to let it get to you. (Sorry that's not very helpful advice.)
2006-11-02 02:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit with him talk and then talk a decision tell him how u feel and listen to what he say
Sleep over it and then tell him ur decision
2006-11-02 02:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by jesica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋