Why am I questioning religion at all? I am a muslim woman, but something is making me think about how religio

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is nonsense. They all are against women in one way or another, they all put the responsibility of men on us. We're basically the cause of all evil in all, and then we're also the main source of a husband's reason for hitting us. In the bible, women are told their birth is a total loss. in Islam, women are told they need to be treated like a child and get permission to do the smallest things and that they are less intelligent and weaker than men. In Judaism, the men seek to control us. I am a thinking individual, and I'm beginning to think that religion is nonsense. I will still fight for what I believe in for the most part, but I can't possibly live it because I honestly don't feel it. What can I do?

I am very knowledgable about Islam, and I expected the men to say this. This comes as no surprise. This is why I question it. Ask the Imam at my mosque. Even he agrees that I am more knowledgable than most.

For the record, I may be a muslim woman, but I am also as white as rice and grew up in the US. My background is Irish.

Cutie, I've read more than you know, and I know well my rights. But a lot of this stuff just doesn't sit well. Women are very powerful. Why should they be oppressed, and no, not in that way, but in the way that they must beg their husbands to use their rights? I'm married to one, and I'm also divorcing him because he cares nothing for Islam and chooses to follow his culture, as do most "muslim" men.

just, how are you going to tell me what I am? My husband is more feminine than I am. I tend to make up my mind and stick with it. He tends to break down in everything. That's not even close to everything else. He's the one who spends so much time on his looks and being vain. I'm comfortable with who I am. I think you have been told this too much. And no, I don't think I need to be monitored when going out for the groceries. Women are human too, in case you hadn't noticed. Men who tell women how the women themselves are feeling irritate the mess out of me because only women know how they feel.

Answer 1

I am not Muslim. But i agree with you. Once i was on a train from Istanbul to Tehran A Pakistani man sat in the compartment When he found I could speak his language he asked straightaway if my wife could put the jam on his bread. This is the limit. Muslim men are downright lazy I agree. Why do you wear a black robe why do you not get the men to do the same cause you are the one that are more active anyway. You can bring about change by rallying women in your religion together.And fight it out

Answer 2

Wow. My jaw just dropped. An Irish woman, living in the US of A, is a Muslim? (Sorry if this sounds rude--I think I should be honest about my bewilderment.)

I'm a Romanian woman, temporarily living in the US of A, and I'm an Orthodox Christian, and I'll try to answer your question, point by point.

In your case, it's more than right to question religion, because presumably it will lead to your questioning your own religion. And your religion, I'm sorry to tell you that, treats women very, very bad. (See first two links.) I'm not qualified to talk about all religions, but in my religion "the source of all evil" is satan. The hitting thing sounds 100% islamic to me (I've read about this recently) and utterly absurd. I'm not sure what Bible are you reading, but in mine definitely there is no such absurd thing as women's birth being a total loss. Although it's much more common to see some women being more intelligent than some men (and most of us would agree that men and women, generally speaking, are equally intelligent), you can even see some women being stronger than some men (physically and/or emotionally)!!! I'm not very familiar with Judaism, so I can't say anything about it.

For your question, the most relevant article I found is called "Women in the Orthodox Church":

http://www.orthodoxinfo.com/general/women.aspx

I hope you find it edifying.

Answer 3

That's great that you are questioning Islam. Islam embraces and promotes that it be picked apart. perhaps the people you know aren't practicing Islam at all. Perhaps it's a distilled religion and its like a shadow-Islam they walk around in. But keep questioning it. i was born a Muslim but abandoned Islam because none of it made sense to me anymore. then when i wasn't looking, Allah showed me a sign and a new, fresh perspective that I never realized was there. I think you're somewhat blinded by anger now. perhaps you need a break from Islam. I went to Buddhism for some time and found tranquility and peace... although some things didn't sit right with me. Eventually, when Allah speaks to you directly, you may see things that you didn't notice before. May Allah show you the Light. peace

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with Islam. And Islam treats women very highly as such it is the responsibility for the man to protect the women. Man can't even touch the property of women unless permission is given. And there are more...

Unfortunately some Muslim men do not know their roles and responsibility towards women.

Peace-

Answer 5

I really appreciated your consciousness and awareness of what organized religions do to us. You were right about everything you said. In Christianity, the Roman Emperor Constantine was actually a Pagan before Paul's sect convinced him to convert. When Constantine converted however, he required a lot of his Pagan views and symbols to come into this new religion. On Mormon Temples you'll see Pagan symobols all over it. Paganism was simply the worship of things around these people that could not be explained. For example, women were worshipped because they brought forth new life from their bodies. Their blood was worshipped because it was obviously sacred, or else it couldn't have brought forth a human body etc. The sun, moon, rivers, floods, rain etc. were worshipped because of the magic that each brought. However, after Christ died, the new "Christian" religion was actually a contest between the old Jewish faith, and literally ten's of new sects, some of which took more of the Jewish persuasion and some like the the Gnostics went to the hills around Jerusalem and tried to avoid the constant bickering and morphing that these essentially Jewish sects were going through as each decided what they would preach. In the year 323, official persecution of this new sect, christians, would officially end. However there was still a huge number of sects such as the followers of Arius, did not believe that Jesus was a God. In 325, Constantine wanted this discussion settled and he convened the Counsel of Nicea, in which essentially determined which gospel would be taught throughout Europe and would rule the minds of Europeans for the next 1000 years! One of the doctrines settled upon was that unlike the Pagans (which were condemned by this new ruling sect) which worshipped women, the new leaders condemned women and glorified men. This new group of "christians" codified what writings met with their philosophy, which any writings which did not were destroyed and/or banned by law! It's no wonder you are confused! I do not have confidence in any organized religion. I choose not to be governed by anyone or any group which tells me that I need someone else's help in order to believe in God. I find God in nature. I find God in solitude, in doing good to others, in bringing happiness to people, animals, in not being judgmental, in trying to live the Golden Rule etc. I don't need any organization to tell me that I can't go to heaven, or live with my family unless I go to the Temple, or pay $ to the church etc. I belive that organized religion has been the biggest reason for all of the wars in history! Carl Marxx said that religion was the "opiate of the people." He once said that if a dictator wanted to rule his people, he either needed a large army, or he needed a heaven and a hell, because that would keep them in their places! Good luck in your pursuit! Make it personal, make it yours, make it at your own time table, make it real!

Answer 6

I do not really know, how far you have study about Islam, Christians or Judaism but I think you should not let this issue keeping on questioning you. Why dont you find someone really expert in this issue. As a Muslim, I believe that all the rules that Allah stated for women are for the goodness of women themseleves and also for the people around them.

I dont think Islam says women are sources of all evil. Let say, a sexy women is very attracting and she might be get raped or something else. In Islam, the responsibility to avoid this thing (rape, illeqal adultery, etc) is on both gender. It is stated in Quran that men should lower their sight (if they see women) and also women. We cannot blame women for having attractions but in the same time women must understand this fact to that they are attractive and so they must protect themselves by wearing clothes that do not show their attractions.

But please refer to any experts in this issue because it cannot be explained with few words. If there are no one, I would.

Answer 7

Religion is complete nonsense. The misogyny that pervades religious texts is understandable; it is how men, the gender which dominates and controls, deal with sexual frustration. Religions all fear sex. Because men are very horny, and because Religion supports abstinence and a moderate sex life, a feeling of frustration is formed within the religious society. Men take this frustration out on women (beat them, veil them, kill adulterers, take concubines). It amazes me, because the Islamic religion claims that all adulterers should be killed, yet heaven is supposedly filled with tons of beautiful women. Religion just exacerbates the existing sexual anxiety that already exists, which creates a lot of frustration taken out on women.

Christianity is also very misogynistic (not quite as much as Islam), a common trait among the prophetic religions.

Religion is all about sex. sex sex sex sex sex, that's all anything is about.

My advice: dump Islam. Dump all religions. They are the root of all evil, and are used to vent hatred to minority groups.

Become an atheist, and see the world with perspicacity.

Answer 8

As-salaam-mu-alaikum
Please study Islam first.
If you do, you will realize that if the Companions of the Prophet (Peace be upon him) ever "beat" their wives, it used to be with a miswaak. A very thin, small stick, which can barely cause any injury!
Also, Islam raised the status of a woman.
She is allowed to inherit, which was not a privilege given to women before Islam.
Islam disallowed the ill treatment of females, which was prevalent in Arabia and other parts of the world before the advent of Islam.
In Islam you do not "need to be treated like a child and get permission to do the smallest things".
Islam has made a woman "the QUEEN of her household"
Religion is NOT nonsense.
"Nonsense" is what the western influence has created.

Answer 9

I think more bias in women liberalisation in your head right now. Why you accept Islam as your way of life? You are lying to yourself and Allah.
If you smart tell me what the reflect if someone believe more in logic and word by non-muslim rather than Allah's word?
If you dont know, i give your answer that that guy are not muslim anymore but a fasiq or munafiq. Find that meaning in english.

Answer 10

asalamwalaikum,

sister first let me say i am so sad to hear of another sister suffering in this way. sometimes there is a long road to finding where we belong. i would urge you to speak with God. just pray don't worry about anything else, just pray and ask God to show you where you belong and to guide your heart. unfortunately sometimes it is hard for humans (whether male or female) to be able to wrap their minds around questions this deep concerning religion..... and it will be hard for a human to give you a sufficient answer. i would just suggest you start by praying.... because all things are done by his will. i wish you all the best and will keep you in my prayers

Allah Hafiz

ps sister can i ask you... are you a convert?