i feel being possessive means,i love n care her a lot...but she does'nt think the same..help out ppl...
2006-11-01 18:08:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a very wrong conception my friend....u dont have to be possessive...coz possessive leads to suspicions, insecurity and disturst......live life as it is...love her in the most natural way....u dont have to take away her independence in the same way as she also should be to you.....if she is meant for you, no one can take that away from u...be positive and rational in ur thoghts....do for her what u want her to do for you....your lovelife wil lbe happy and harmoniious.....all the best pal....may u have a wonderful relationship with ur gf.....
2006-11-01 19:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by mr_BIG 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, just lighten up. Life is too short to race through it all hung up on control and possessive issues. There will always be other men and women to look at and will be forced to look at or consider if not treated right.
Show her that you love or care for her with respect and understanding of who she is and why you like or love her so much. Just love her. She is not a puppet or someone who can be possessed by you or anyone else.
Ask her about her day. Buy her some flowers from time to time. Be interested in her, ask her questions to learn about her, but let her live and if you feel you must posses her, what is it in this relationship that you feel you are going to loose if you don't keep such a tight grip.
Because the tighter the grip the less room there is for growth for anything, let alone a relationship or permanent commitment.
Counseling isn't a bad idea either with a pastor or licensed counselor to help you with this issue.
God Bless in your future!
2006-11-01 18:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, in fact most cultures would view lack of possessiveness to be a lack of love and caring. Thing is you have to go all the way with it; to be willing to die by it. Then she will understand, that she is valued and that you are brave (not selfish or insecure). Don't back down if it's worth it.
2006-11-01 18:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am a very jealous individual myself, and the more possessive and aggressive you are the better. But don't overdue it! That's just not nice. you should be able to tell by her actions if you have gone too far with it. She will become grouchy and irritable. Just like when one doesn't get enough attention. As long as you are loving and compassionate to her needs, I don't see a problem with it.
2006-11-01 18:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not good to be possessive. It really does not mean as much as some women think.
I won't let a guy own me. Nobody owns me. You can care about someone without owning them.
If another guy touches her, and she is ok with it, then it is her body. You only have a say over your own body.
If you like having sex with her, then keep doing it. But you don't own her. Remember you have to respect her as a person. Not a thing that looks good on your arm and strokes your ego.
2006-11-01 18:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by meanpromqueen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty normal when you're very young. It doesn't really mean you love someone alot though. It means you're insecure about yourself or the relationship. You don't want anyone else to pay attention to her, because she might like them and leave you. So you try to control how much she interacts with other guys
A girl can live with a LITTLE jealousy now and then, but being very posessive is a real turn-off. Think of it as being like when a girl is too clingy on you....
2006-11-01 18:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think you have a very wrong perception on being possessive.
being possessive means that you are talkign control over someone you may have right on.i think, you are over controlling your gf's life.which is normal.just dont take it too over.i guess that is why your gf does not like it,your controlling her too much. i know that you love her.but when you are in love with soemone, its not that you should control them in all the way.give them some space.i know you may want to control some of the things for her own good, but she may take it otherwise.this may make issues rise and make things ugly.have a talk with your girl about the things which you are not satisfied and why you tend to control.see what she has to say and compromise.
2006-11-01 18:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
some men are that way when they are also dominating toward their girl like telling her who she is allowed to be friends with or keeping tabs on where she is at all times. She isn't a piece of property you own, she is with you because she chooses to be and some men forget that when they become possessive. Most of them start off as that and end up as scary stalker types when the relationship ends.
2006-11-01 18:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by kimnwi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats great if you with a girl that feels good that you are that way.
I love that, it makes me know that my man cares about me and wants to keep me and protect me. Maybe she wants a different something different though. Are you acting more possessive b/c she is distancing herself from you?
2006-11-01 18:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you mean possessive by saying that you love and care her a lot. Its perfectly not a problem untill your girlfriend is having problem with that.
2006-11-01 19:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by manoj Ransing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋