my mom has always asked me to help her out financially. Last year I found out she has been giving all her money to my sister. Whom has a drug problem. my mom has her kids.and get welfare for them. Now my sister has come back to live with my mom...took her welfare back and spends it. My mom asked me for money to go see my Grandma, but at this time i really can't. When i told her to get it from my sister...she said she can't or she'll get mad at her for asking. After raising 4 grandkids for 17 years...my mom is afraid to ask her for $300.00.I want to say some straight things to her about my sister, but she gets really mad when i do. I would get passed that , but she is obese to the point of high blood pressure, Th ekids don;t listen anymore, now that their mom is back...one even was alowed to go on a date she 17 he's 22...now pregnant with this guy. My mom is so close to a heart attack...i can't sleep. We have all tried talking to her, but she leaves or get mad. now she wont talk to me..
2006-11-01 17:40:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because i couldn't help her...i hate what she does for my sister...for 17 years she has been her bank...her place to sleep when she dome running the streets, takes her kids when she needs money...cause she met a guy...gives them back when they break up so she can run around again. I always help my mom...but when i ask about my sister helping she got so amd...and never returned my calls. I don't know what to do...
2006-11-01 17:42:02 · update #1
JUSt move on. YOUR not responsible 4 all her bills.
2006-11-01 17:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is using you to support your sisters drug habit. And she refuses to see the truth, which you can do nothing about. Your sister will suck her dry like a leach. In that case, I'd tell my mother that the well has run dry. If she chooses to give all of her money to your sister, the so be it. She's enableing her to keep up her street life. However, you are under no obligation to give your mother any money for your sisters kids. Stop doing it. Because you are also enabeling your mother to keep depending on you for your $$, not your love and support. it will be hard, but do it anyway. Things will not get better for your mom as long as she harbors your sisters junkie ways. Junkies will lie, steal and cheat to get what they want from anyone! Stop being her pipeline for cash. And see a counselor for your self. godloveya.
2006-11-01 18:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sorry to hear that, but it seems like its time for some tough love on your part. The only thing you're accomplishing by giving in each time is by encouraging your mom to encourage your sisters' behavior. I feel badly for your mom but its time she learns that she is not doing your sister any favors and perhaps if you start saying no to your mom she will begin to say no to your sister. Otherwise, your sister is going to continue to have all these kids that you and your mother are going to have to support and your sister will never learn to be responsible. Why would you want to continue to be a part of that? Good luck, this is a tough one.
2006-11-01 17:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by SittinPretty! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard, but I think you are not alone I've heard of many people in this situation. Do not give your mom any more money. Just tell her you can't. Maybe go to your sister and tell her how she is killing your mom, have a talk with her, however I doubt she will change, she is a loser. Just no more $$
2006-11-01 17:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
id simply just stay away and say the serenity prayer accept the things that you cannot change but understand the difference..what ever will be will be no matter what you do or dont do.. and even though your mom is sick she will keep feedin your sister and her habbit to keep her happy even if it means taking from you fighting with you..giving you guilt for no reason.. and i myself would just back away from the whole situation..you dont need this...and just prey, for your mom ..she isnt young but right now.. she is choosing her own destiny even if it kills her! you dont have to agree or even give in and give her the money just let her know you dont want any part of whats going on its wrong and you wont contribute to your sisters wrong doings..the more you give the more they will want..your contience is clear..god bless you!! keep it together..be strong..!
2006-11-01 18:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by BLUEEYES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job and then open ^ an bank account and then save ur money and then get ur own place.
2006-11-01 18:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋