i m in love with a boy called ABHAY. he is 20 years old. and he is 1year youngar then me. i love him so much. he loves me too. he wants to marry me . he is persuing in B.COM. 2 nd year.our perents r not ready for our merriege. and he is ready to live his perents for me but i dont want that he should live his perents. he is a marathi boy. and i m nepali girl. i said him i cant get merried to hurt my perents. but i love him. i cant hurt him too. he is my FIRST AND LAST LOVE. now he is in maharashtra, and i m in delhi. i said him that u have to stable your carrer first.after that we will get merried. my mom, my buas, (fathers sisters), my sister, and my dadi are agree for our merrieg. my bua like him too. but i love my father very much. i cant hurt him. i thought that he can understand my love. but i was wrong.i cant leave without ABHAY. and i cant cheat him. he is avery innocent type of person. very childlike. now this time i have too much mentel stress.now uu tell me what should i do
2006-11-01 17:24:43 · 17 answers · asked by sandhya rajkumar m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whats there to marry him.........
2006-11-01 18:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Santhosh Shetty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand ur problem and if i would tell u that u r too young to think about marriage,u would think it is a cliche.Ur complete life is ahead and u have to think about families also,if a person is ready to leave his family for u, a family which has brought him up and given himlove and financial support till now, he is ready to leave such a family!!!!!!!!!It is surprising a person who can leave such a family probably can leave u also if he finds someone else. I know this statement of mine would hurt u but i really feel this is reality if u think from ur brain and not heart.Love takes u beyond practicality u just want to think about eachother and no one else, but when u stay together and face the harsh realities u would wonder where has the love gone! Right now since he is away from u don't contact him for atleast 4 5 months and see that u both can manage ur life well and meanwhile u concentrate on ur career which is very important. Marriage can wait and if he is ur only love hewill be there with u later also if God wants u both to be together and don't think that u are cheating him because u r not .U have to give this relationship a lot of time and let this love grow. Any otherproblem that u wish to talk about write to me again.All the best .
2006-11-01 17:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time of your life, where you have to make a choice. Unfortunately for you its too early in your life, and also the matter is very important. I will say try to change your fathers mind. Get help from your buas. Do whatever best you want. Even if he doesn't agree, choose one of the twos.
2006-11-01 19:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by manoj Ransing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your parents that u will marry Abhay.U will not be cheating ur parents. U are above 18 u should take ur decesions on ur own. It is a free country you can do any thing u want. U are educated do what u prefer better. Ok
Happy Weddings if u marry him.
Yesh Tomer A boy who wants u to marry Abhay.
2006-11-01 17:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your father may never really like Abhay but you may be able to use the influence of your mother and your buas to help him relent and allow you two to marry.
2006-11-01 17:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Robert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by irish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey this is bradley here. i am a psychology student by profession. i understand your state of mind. i would suggest you to wait for some time and try convincing your father thet ull indeed be happy with him. also as regards to him do not discourage him by saying u can not hurt your family becasue it might cause him emotional problems. also when he says he will leave his family then convince him thats wrong as they have braught hi m up since he was young. i can help u more if i understand your case better. if u ned more adivse u can add me on msn messenger at hodgebradley@yahoo.com.au ...
be strong.. al the best
2006-11-01 17:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by hodgebradley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time to settle all matters. Continue this relationship and do not keep it a secret from your family Slowly things will look brighter for you and you can get the Husband of your choice
2006-11-01 17:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now u will have to decide what u want to do. But first concentrate in ur and his career and then after then try to ready ur father for ur marriage and best of Luck from my side.
2006-11-01 17:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Harshal M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Let me tell you one thing,we all can only advice you.It is you and your boy friend who has to take decision.Sit down with your boy friend and think what will be best for us now,do not take any dissions which will make you think that i have taken a wrong decision.First complete your education, search for job and then marriage.
My best wishes and blessing for you both.
2006-11-01 20:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by prasanna kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing wrong to get married with a younger guy than you, but explain to your parents. Racial should not be a problem, the most common in a relationship is understaning of eachothers betterhalf. But........ I beleive both of you should get your parents blessing
2006-11-01 17:31:03 · answer #11 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋