It was like fairy tale, i met him, i fell in love in spite of knowing that he was a cancer patient with just a short time here, loved him even while knowing how much i wud get hurt.. and now he told me he has such a beautufull wife n a darling baby..whom he doesnt love , whom he has been running away from.. does this man deserve to be pitied? he loved me true that i know.. his life is in shreds ..is he worthy of sympathy?
2006-11-01 17:21:59 · 13 answers · asked by ivyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. He abandoned a woman that he made a committment to. And a baby? Don't give him sympathy, please!
2006-11-01 17:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by latte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a hard question. Of course, if he is really a cancer patient, and you KNOW this is true, he could be telling you the truth - people do fall out of love, and perhaps he has with his wife. Does that mean he is going to get divorced from her or that he will continue to be her husband while trying to have some kind of relationship with you? Being a cancer patient does not mean that he is going to die - many people survive although some do not. Is there a future for this man, if so, does he say he wants to have that future with you and is he willing to do something to bring that about. Otherwise, there is not much to continue but to say goodbye to him and wish him well so that he can continue throughout this difficult time with a wife and child that he wants to remain with. What is the real story here. Make sure you know.
In any case he is worthy of sympathy for the illness he is going through. That does not mean rush into his arms and forget about the wife. Don't let yourself be carried away with pity to the point that you forget to safeguard your own feelings. It is all right to feel love and sympathy for someone, but if his life is in shreds can you step in and change that or will you merely be someone on the side who makes him feel better. You just need to examine your heart, and use your common sense. All the advice from other people won't change what you really think is the right thing to do. You have a big heart - use your big brain and figure it out.
2006-11-02 01:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathy s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an emotionally charged and difficult decision to make. In one aspect i could say that a man who knows that he might have only a limited time due to cancer might not be thinking clearly or has chosen to not put his real family under his stress there for runs never telling them.
But is that any excuse to not support and love your child and wife?
Do i think that he deserves to love someone else, yes but maybe
he shouldn't act so selfishly and think about how his actions have affected the people around him in doing so.
2006-11-02 01:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is not worthy to be given pardon
whatever his reason might be an irresponsible sick man like him, whom with the knowledge that he is a cancer patient and does not want to correct things in his life especially give time to his daughter, i dont know what is going inside this man's head
and as for you it is your duty to tell him that, to make him see things clearer, you are not in the position to give him pardon or anything the Lord would do that just show him his mistakes
but still be there for him, we all make mistakes
2006-11-02 01:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He figures he has not much time to live so what if he deceives you. But he is only fooling himself. He has but little time to learn that everything you do in life will have to be accounted for after life.
An honorable person lives their life every day as if they will be alive for all eternity. A dishonorable person tries to get away with things and cheat time.
2006-11-02 01:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by furshluginer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ruin his marriage. You do not want to be responsible for that. It's not about you, there is a child. Forget your "fairy tale" he lied, and cheated. The fairy tale was a LIE. He will do the same to you.
2006-11-02 01:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lashenova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me his Cancer is his Married Life....I think he's taking you for a ride hun
2006-11-02 04:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by safireblu64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is playing you. He sounds totally sleazy
no pardon, no sympathy
2006-11-02 01:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,off course!
2006-11-02 01:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How naive are you he is a liar and a cheat and you should get rid of him now
2006-11-02 01:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋