My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We're 20 now. It's been pretty good, but we go to different colleges 90 miles away, and we really don't see each other as much as we'd like to. When we do see each other, we bicker more than anything else. We're sophomores and we're both very adjusted to college life now, but our freshman year was hard like it is for most people, and we needed each other to make it through. I think the number one problem is I'm sexually frustrated. I knew going into this relationship that he wasn't going to have sex until marriage, and it was fine then, but it bothers me now. I feel like we are missing a huge part of what a relationship is. He treats me very well, and I admit that most of the bickering is started on my end because he never seems as happy with me as he does when he's at school. It's like he can't wait to go back. He is planning to transfer to California next year for film school, 2000 miles away, which will only make it harder. What now?
2006-11-01 17:21:34 · 19 answers · asked by I heart art 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
way to go waiting for marriage, if ya'll truly love each other, you can make it work. education is important and when ya'll are married, ya'll will live well. Ya'll are fighting right now probably because ya'll miss each other. Me and my girlfriend always fight when we are to busy to give each other a lot of attention. What seems to make him happy just most likely seems to be wrong because the lack of attention frustrates and escalates and causes problems.
2006-11-01 17:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by u asked so here it is 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he isn't sharing the same feelings for you as you share for him. When he planned his transfer he probably was not considering you as much because he seems to have distanced himself a bit from the relationship. If I were you I would ask him about the transfer then say, "Then what" ask him how you will communicate, see each other, etc. You obviously wanna have sex with him, and it is a big part of a relationship, you should tell him your feelings, but don't pressure him because that will just make it worse. Tell him all of your feelings and thoughts and see if he shares those with you, if he doesn't I would just brake it off because it seems likes you are caring more about your relationship then he is. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 01:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. You love him, but you're not happy about the long distance relationship. I think he feels the same way, too. Let go and move on. Try to meet other people through SinglesNet Dating. I'm sure you'll find a nice guy that lives just around the corner. So, check out this site http://www.upkb.com/singlesnet.php and keep an open mind.
2006-11-02 01:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by ada W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew all along that sex wasn't part of the equation and now it bothers you. Is this for selfish reasons? Are you trying to keep him close to you? Seems to me like he is moving on. The guy wants to go to college 2000miles away!! Has he asked you to come with him and go to a school in California?? Break Up
2006-11-02 01:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by TREE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, but before you do give him a video tape of you sucking off his best friend and taking a shot in the mouth. Maybe the little 2000 miles away that your tool of a boyfriend is moving will be a little easier for him knowing you just railed the **** out of his best friend. make sure you shave yourself bald before you do that though, Trust me.....
2006-11-02 02:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by DemoDicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the ship is sinking slowly. Choose and then follow your heart. Don't fight over what doesn't matter. If he is not around and you don't want to wait. Sound like you made up your mind already. Just keep your pants on a little longer and make sure this is what you want. It will change your life.
2006-11-02 01:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't deserve for you to break up with him, but t sounds like you're going to break up anyway, so you might as well get it over with. If he's willing to move that far away after already having so many problems in your guys relationship, then that's the right choice, end it.
2006-11-02 01:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by mrmanseven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do break up you have to understand that theres alway a possibility of you two getting back together in the distant future. Personally, I think you should break up because it sounds like you too are changing. If it was meant to be you will be with him. Long distant relationships to me arent worth it.
2006-11-02 01:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by The Drake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are billions of other people in the world. You could always pick one. Just think about it. Maybe you're better off with someone else. You may also try SinglesNet Dating. That's where I met my husband. Check out this site http://www.upkb.com/singlesnet.php
2006-11-02 03:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by chantel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a nice, decent guy if he wants to wait until marriage. Sounds like he doesn't want to mess up his life, I hope you will let him get on with college and not pressure him anymore. Let the guy excel without holding him back.
2006-11-02 01:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋