can we? could we? should we??

Question

Me and my boyfriend are both mature and responsible adults, not just a bunch of punk kids screwing around. just to clear that up. but anyways, we have been together for two months and we have an active sex life. i am on birth control and we use condoms. he has not complained until tonight after we had sex. he said he hates condoms. i have a baby and don't want another yet, nor can i afford one in any way. i know alot of people reley on birth control alone to prevent pregnancy and i was wondering what other people's opinions are. what are the risks? should we try it without a condom? another thing is when he comes alot of times little or nothing comes out. part of having diabeties and drinking too much coffee i guess. and i've been on the deadbeat dad train before but i know in my heart if we did have an oops he would make sure his baby was taken care of no matter what happened between us. WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK??

thanks all,
~Rikki

we have both recently been tested for STDs and we are clean.

Answer 1

Many things have been involved in it..

(1) First and foremost advice is that "Under No Circumstances One Should Bring A Baby On This Earth With Any Possibility Of Uncertainty".

(2) Your bf is right. Doing it with condom definitely lessen the pleasure.

(3) As regards to using contraceptive.. You can use pills (dont expect 100% protection)

(4) Ask him slow down his speed and rhythem this will prolong your game and you will come first.. once you are done he will be free to peform it in any way he wishes and at last he can withdraw and *** on you (anywhere that you both like)..

(5) After having a child I have been practicing it since last decade and i never had to run to doc for abortion..

(6) As regard to the quantity let me tell you one small drop is enough to conceive a gal because it containts millions of counts that shoots like rockets toward the egg..

Answer 2

I got pregnant 10 yrs ago. I was on the pill AND we used a condom. Sometimes bad things just happen-and that's the risk of having sex before marriage. I met someone a few yrs ago and we both got tested both came out clean so we stopped using condoms. ( I had switched to the shot after I got pregnant).1) I would not recommend stopping condom use yet-you both need to get tested because you could catch a disease that would risk your fertility when you ARE ready to have a planned pregnancy. 2) if this is a really good guy and things work out then you will probably be engaged soon and you can get rid of the rubber then. Yes, I had another oops-and although he was(is) a super good guy, it was still early in our relationship and neither of us was ready to say "i do" at that time, and now we are no longer together. A couple of yrs can change alot of things. No birth control is 100% effective and no man is 100% perfect-dont let a man you hardly know change your life forever.

Answer 3

i say keep the condom on ...you cant afford to have a disease or pregnancy again...i like sex like the next person but you got to protect yourself...if you are thinking about uncapping jimmy ...why dont you both go down and get tested so you can be sure on things...if you know what i mean....a person who is unwilling to test has something to hide...and that should tell you right there...at first it could be an insult but if you do it too it wont feel like it is an insult...if he wants just booty call he will avoid the test and if hes serious about being with you then he will go..you can do it as a couple and you will know for sure and it will prove your responsibility and that you are not just some flake you are smart....if you two test negative then its a go for bump and grind uncapped...lol and you will have to take your pills ....since your relationship is fairly new i wouldnt suggest tubal or vasectomy ...

Answer 4

If you're uncomfortable doing it without a condom let him know.
Don't beat around the bush, just give it to him straight - do it with tact and be gentle but don't compromise. After all, if there's an "oops" it's ultimately you that will have to deal with it.

Anyway he responds will better show you what he's made of, and help you decide whether you want him around your kid.

Answer 5

First of all you are yet again having sex with someone that isn't committed to you. What are you doing with your life? You already have a child, you say you don't want another yet you are taking such a risk. And if you have an "oops" you know in your heart........ come on you don't know a thing until reality sets in, he could run for the hills and then you'd be stuck with another dead beat dad. Why do you have such little respect for yourself?What I think is, quit messing with guys who just get it for free.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Its not just about not getting pregnant, do you know his sexual history, are you 100% sure that he's free of any diseases. Tell him to have an std check and look into possibly using a different method of male birth control then you'll agree to it. You have yourself and your child to consider if you fell ill.

Answer 8

Condoms are the best to avoid pregnancy.
whether your guys come a little or not at all...its not safe NOT to use condoms.
There are pills to avoid pregnancy and female condoms. But please see an ob/gyn before choosing the right b/c method.
Good luck.

Answer 9

doesnt sound as if it's really worth the risk. you should ask yourself, whats the worst that could happen ? hmmm, you could get pregant again. you said you are not ready for that again, i say you stick to your guns and make him understand that it's very important to you that he continues to practice safe sex with a condom, because you are not ready to suffer the consequences and neither is he....good luck

Answer 10

But the condoms are the best way to protect from std's.