Am I over reacting?

Question

I'm at work right now, where I work its laid back. Theres no supervisor so were pretty much on our own. Well there's these 2 girls sitting by my that are close friends but all 3 of us talk the night away. Yesturday we were all talking and one of there girls (we'll call her stephanie) said something about quiting, so i was like "why would you wanna quiet" and she goes "just becouse", then says to other girl (sally) "you know why sally". 2 me that was rude. but maybe i'm just over reacting. So the rest of night they both tried to talk to me but i wasnt into the conversation much. Then tonight something happened and *stephanie was pissed off and wanting to quite, all night the 2 girls have been talking back and forth say stuff to each other like "you know what i'm talking about" and "i'll tell you later" now keep in mind its only us 3 on this side of the room so no one else can hear whats going on. I'm so close 2 going off on her but im biting my tongue. I havnt talked to each all night

i understand it may be private but to do all that code talk and $hit, its just not needed you know? go out side if its important like that....but im really about to go off on this girl. I cant stand rude people.

Answer 1

Maybe a little bit, but I know how you feel kinda because it always bugs me when people whisper to each other in front of me even if it has nothing to do with me. I'm just paranoid that way thinking people are talking about me and it bothers me.

Answer 2

You are over-reacting. Let them share this inside joke or whatever. This just goes to show that most women get along better with good male friends then they do with other women. Males have less drama and don't overreact on stuff like this. Generally, we just don't care. If you put 3-5 women alone in a room for longer than 2 hours, chances are that when they come out they'll hate each others guts one way or the other.

It must be that time of the month for you :) (joke)

Answer 3

When working together with colleges the best thing is not to make any remarks and mind your own business. Let them talk and get busy or read something. If they ask for your opinion tell them that their heart knows whats best . Don't get involved. I must say they are a little immature for me.
In the future never tell your life story to colleagues and don't complain expect to your boss if you want something. Keep a professional attitude and you do not make friends at work it is negative for me.
You particpate to Christmas dinners or other events pertaining to your job etc...but you leave it to that.. Have a wonderful day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I have that done to me before. The thing is "they are trying to get to you". What I have learnt from that situation is just to ignore them. Don't let it bother you. Trust me girl, You are better of not knowing what they are talking about because if she should hear someone else with it. (whatever they are talking about) she can't say it came from you. Just ignore them. Get a magazine and read or find a radio station on the net and listen to or play games. Let them talk. One day, they are gonna come running to you bicching about each other ...........trust me!!! I've seen it happen.

Answer 5

Firstly, pls grow up!!! Secondly, dump them as friends or stop hanging out with them!!! Lastly, leave that job where there seems to be no growth professionally except for bitching!!!!

Dont mean to be rude, but do u really need pple like this!! I dont blame you for feeling left out but i would just not associate with such pple who are rude and two faced!!!

Answer 6

i don't think they have a problem with you..it may be something private...but it is rude...if it's THAT private they shouldn't have said anything to start with. you should tell them that you respect their privacy and that you don't wanna know what it is they're talking about, but just tell them that you would appreciate they not talk about it around you at all cuz you feel awkward. if they any decency at all, they'll stop

Answer 7

i understand you, but don't flare up and confront her when ur mad. you can talk to "stephanie" and her friend when ur calm, and tell them you're really bugged everytime they talk about their secrets in front of you. Tell them they're making you feel left out and bad about yourself. and if they need to talk about such things and cannot let you know, tell them to talk about it someplace else where you're not around. that way, they're saving the spilling the beans drama and you won't feel out of place.

Answer 8

Yep, I think its rude. But you know you can't demand they tell you. But yes, its rude and you will live your life bumping into rude people. Just try and overlook it. They are rude!

Answer 9

Go up to them and say " look, i think you might have a problem with me. and if you do, then id like to take care of that right now"

Answer 10

No, you're taking it too hard, but they're acting like stupid high-school drama queens - well, tell them something like "girls, I am working here, take your private chat out, please" and, I dunno, crank up your iPod & zone out for the night...