I have bipolar but am not yet medicated. I am waiting to see a doctor. My episodes are bad with very bad temper outbursts and I cannot control the volume at which I speak. My husband thought I was a very bad person until I got diagnosed. Now that he knows what it is he still treats me like I should be abl;e to help it. He hasn't looked stuff up about it which really hurts me 'cos I think he would if he cared. He swears that he loves me and when I am relatively normal he is very good to me and behaves like he adores me. I know it is hard for him but I wish he would stop telling me about it when he doesn't know himself. What can I do?
2006-11-01 17:07:25 · 5 answers · asked by JAM 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I went to a clinic and was diagnosed by a mental health care pro (social worker). I have been refferred to a doc within the clinic to prescribe meds.
2006-11-01 17:48:56 · update #1
OK, first of all, it's going to take time. It will take time to get the meds to kick in, and it will take time to get the right combination for you (everyone reacts differently to this crap). Once all that is there, you should see stability, and so will he. It will also take time for both of you to come to terms with the diagnosis of a serious mental illness. Do not be surprised at hostility at some point, as you will suddenly have 'an excuse for your bad behavior'.
The best advice I have for you right now is education. If you haven't already read it, get a copy of the Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide (there's an Amazon link below) - it's a superb book. You could also try 'Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder' (also below), but I found that a bit cheesy.
You should also get some support, either from a local group or from one of the many internet forums. I have listed the two I use below; both have sections for relationship issues and will give you useful help and advice.
Best of luck from a fellow bipolar. You can work through this - I've been married 20 years, and bipolar for 25, even though I was only diagnosed last year.
2006-11-01 20:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is bipolar and I can atest that from an outsiders point of view it seems like you should be able to control it. I've learned to stop asking the "why can't you ever?" questions. I would suggest you bring your husband to your apointment and have the doctor explain your diagnosis more fully. How wonderful that you are seeking treatment and I sincerely hope that you can find a medication that helps you stay more stable.
2006-11-01 17:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sublette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you waiting to see a doctor? And who told you thatyou had a bipolar disorder? There are many other illnesses and mental health issues that are manifested in mood swings, depression, manic episodes, etc.
Have him go to the doctor/psychiatrist with you and become an active member of your treatment team. Family is vital in the solution. And remember, perhaps he is not ready to face the reality of your situation.
2006-11-01 17:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk with him maybe look up stuff yourself and give it too him to read and tell him that you are sick you can not help the way you are yet and if he truely loves you he will understand that you can not control the way you are sometimes. He just does not know how to take care for you he may feel helpless and so he maybe taking his fraustrations out on you i know its not right but that maybe what is happening now. Maybe try to find a couciling group that deals with families that are going through the same thing he and you are. GOOD LUCK
2006-11-01 17:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just wait. Wait to get medicated and hope that your hubby learns patience with you. ^_^
Good luck, babe.
2006-11-01 17:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋