Everytime my boyfriend and and I go out for dinner. He reachs for his wallet to pull out his credit card to pay for dinner. I really like him to pay for dinner. However,for the past two weekends I made the decision to pay for dinner, and he was OK with that. I really don't feel comfortable paying for dinner. He is a doctor and makes more money than I do. Last week we went to a restaurant, then we end up leaving because he thought the prices were too expensive. I felt very uncomfortable. Is he cheap? Should I continue sharing the bill when we go out for dinner? I come from a culture where men always pay for a lady. Maybe an Anglo see things differently. Please help me understand. I don't know what to do.
2006-11-01 16:58:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if he's a doctor and makes more money than you that it's fine if he always pays. I mean, don't suggest the most expensive restaurant and always order steak, but I think it's realistic in a serious relationship when someone makes more money than the other for one person to always pay. Anyways, now he knows that you at least notice that he pays since you offered to. My boyfriend always pays!
2006-11-01 17:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by charlottesamanthamirandacarrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean...I come from a culture where men pays for dinner as well.I Hate to make an assumption but lots of doctors,lawyers, professor are cheap. (I owned restaurants for 16 yrs and I see how they tip. Well..if he insist on paying for dinner let him. But I am sure he would appreciate you if you pay for dinner here and there. I am not sure about you but I hate the fact of splitting bills w/ a boyfriend.
2006-11-01 17:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he wants to pay let him pay but if he is paying and feels the resturant is too expensive then bc he is paying you will have to deal with that i know how it is living with a cheapo i am married to one lol. He may not be making as much as you think specially if he pays with his credit card all the time also maybe that is why he is a cheapo too. Maybe just go dutch and that way if you want to eat somewhere and he dont you guys can or just maybe if you can have a talk with him ask him why he felt such and such restruant was to expensive.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-01 17:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my boyfriend...he usually pays for more than I do. But it is nice to split the bill once in a while, or pick something up yourself. Although it is nice to have a man that shows that he has no problem taking care of the woman he is with. Its also nice when you can to help him out a little... Not much advice, hope ya get some clarity though
2006-11-01 17:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by CoCo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no reason for you to pay for dinner or anything else, on a date...If your boyfriend has nerve enough to walk out of a restaurant during your dating years imagine how he'd be if you were married..Bad manners only get worse, after marriage, not better...
2006-11-01 17:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Barbarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must pay for dinners equally as much as him. It has nothing to do with how much you earn. This is a symbol of independence. You wont be throwing it in his face but it is a hint that you are not dependant & weak. If you feel that it is your turn to pay but you have no money, dont go out for dinner. He needs to accept that you have a control in the relationship too.
2006-11-01 17:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
once in a while,i dont see why not you cant pay the bill.but you dont have to do it to impress.if you are uncomfortable with it,then stop it.why not let him know that where you come from,it is the responsibility of the man to 'pay'.if he insists,and you are sure you love him so much to keep him,then you choose where you can afford and invite him out at your comfort.
2006-11-01 17:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gal ..this guy is so tight that when he walks his cheeks squeak.
Dump the dud and get yourself a Gentleman who enjoys treating you like the Lady you are....and always let the man pay for the dates, it's their privilege to pay for the enjoyment of sharing your company!
Good Luck
2006-11-01 17:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this culture we share especially nowadays but it just seems like this doctor is a cheap stake. Dump is cheap a$$!!!
2006-11-01 17:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is his responsibility let him pay for it. Even though we would like you to pay for it sometimes its part of having a girlfriend.
2006-11-01 17:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by alexmojo2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋