Did the person ASK for forgiveness, or did you have to struggle with it when or was too late to confront them; ie they were already deceased, or perhaps you were the victim of a violent crime and they never caught the perpetrator.
Be as wordy as you like.
2006-11-01 16:24:43 · 12 answers · asked by lookn2cjc 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
the first three years of my marriage my husband treated me terribly. He hurt me so much emotionally that it honestly changed my whole outlook on life. He broke me down over and over again because I wasn't the person he wanted me to be. He was constantly trying to manipulate me and control me so much so that he killed a part of me. Because I wouldnt give him everything he desired. Things have since changed for the most part but its so hard to forgive him and to forget about the past and all the pain that he has caused me. Because of the way he treated me I started cutting and tried to commit suicide. But its all over and done now, We have since tried to move on with our lives... He still hurts me sometimes, a few months ago he tried to manipulate me again by telling me that he wasnt satisfied with his life and that he didnt think he love me anymore. Told me he loved someone else. and then turns around and admits that it was only because he resented me and wanted to hurt me. He has done this to me every year or some variation of this saying he doesnt love me then changing his mind. He has since then apologized to me almost every day since but the pain is still there from all the lies and manipulative ways and all that he has put me through. Im still trying to forgive him. I live in fear that the next time he decides to hurt me it may be much worse. But I keep forgiving him like the idiot I am. Sorry lol, this question was about forgiveness wasnt it. I didnt mean to use it to vent lol. But I am sincerely trying to forgive him, Ive forgiven him many times in the past but I cant forget because the little things he does are constant reminders. I have since become a shy introverted person who people use as a doormat, I used to be this really outgoing fun outspoken girl.
Im giving him one last chance, hopefully he will pull through and finally show me the respect I deserve, if not sorry to say Im taking our kids and leaving because I cant let my children grow up seeing me as this weak individual I have become. I honestly live in fear thinking of the next thing he will do to hurt me. Again sorry lol
2006-11-01 16:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13, I was a passenger in a very serious car accident that left me close to dead. After about six weeks of healing and I knew what had happened, I was very bitter towards the person that had caused the wreck. It took me a very long time, but I learned to forgive the person, even though I had never met them.
2006-11-01 18:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by ironchain15 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused by someone very close to me. I really struggled with my feeling on forgiveness. I was alway taught "forgive and forget." But how do you forget something like that. I felt that because I couldn't forget I wasn't being forgiving, and that God wouldn't forgive me. So I prayed that God help me to forgive...to forget. Then one day at church, after I prayed about it, the priest gave a talk on forgiving. He said that forgiving and forgetting were not the same thing. He said that we can forgive without forgetting. We remember when people hurt us as a defense against being hurt again. We remember and we learn from our history and can avoid the hurt in the future and so we can keep others from being hurt (my children for example). I think God was speaking to me through that priest, because it was exactly what I needed to hear. I am at peace with it all now. The person who abused me never asked me for forgiveness but I am sure he has made peace with God about it. We are still very close, but we never speak about what happened. He goes to church and seems to be very devout.
God bless,
Stanbo
2006-11-01 16:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Stanbo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We have been approximately to alter domicile once I fell sick. She got here domicile, she took care of all of the packaging, from the clothing to the fixtures, to all... i replaced into there, mendacity in mattress and she or he replaced into working like a canines. And while i attempted to tell her 'thank you' she became so offended, she advised me if I ever attempt saying such lower back, she would be in a position to by no skill communicate to me!
2016-11-26 23:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now i am trying to forgive my Parents for years of abuse that is still going on. I am trying hard to forgive them it'd not easy. they have NEVER asked me to forgive them.
But since i had my Baby Daughter 5 months ago. i think if i can forgive my parents this will help me be a better Mother to her. it's a long road but with the help of a friend that I have met here on Yahoo answers I think i can forgive them for me & my daughter NOT them.
2006-11-01 16:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband stalked me for a very long time, he tried to get me thrown out of church, he called up family members and told them personal, private things that he knew would embarrass me. I never confronted him about any of it, I turned it all over to Jesus and asked God to save me.
One day it all stopped, it just stopped like that. Whenever I feel resentment come up for the pain and fear and embarrassment he caused me, I instantly ask Jesus to take it from me. There is no way I am going to allow any resentment to drop anchor in my heart, for anything, ever again. It is poison and I want nothing to do with it.
2006-11-01 16:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well just after my father died. Thieves broke into his house and destroyed everything they didn't carry away. Though I have suspicions we do not know who did it. We have a feeling it was someone who knew my father just died and knew my mom was staying at my grandfathers. Also they vandalized his car.
The hardest thing is having a feeling you might know them. It is hard to picture someone you know maybe family would do something like that to you.
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2006-11-01 17:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by suthrndaysi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they never asked forgiveness, but they DID go to prison, and thats a small comfort. and now one side of my family hates the other. its all very soap opera really
2006-11-01 16:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mom killed herself when I was a baby.
She was bipolar and manic depressive, and it took me a while after finding out about this to realise that I resented her for it.
My rational was that she was abandoning me by doing it.
Eventually I was able to get over it, and accept that she was sick and just didn't get all the help she needed, and that it had nothing to do with me.
2006-11-01 16:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
my grandfather had molested me and i had a hard time dealing with it. I chose to forgive him and he's never asked. Its kinda like how Jesus forgives us before we even ask
2006-11-01 16:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋