should i ask him?

Question

my bf and i broke up a week ago...he broke up with my because he was tired of fighting over stupid things and he said that i always made him late.

well we would have been 3 years in december together but it's too late now.

we arent screaming or fighting on the phone were just talking like were friends. i want to ask him to do something this weekend but i'm terrified to ask because i dont want to get hurt if he says no.

i think if we talk on the phone okay we would be okay to hang out together.

what should i do?

i don't want to go through life wondering "what if" because i think if we did become friends we might realize how much we miss each other and MAY decide to get back together. BUT if we do it wouldn't be serious and i would deal with it and so would he.

Answer 1

when you break up, just break up.there's no alternative option. give some time so he can miss you if he really wants to get back together.

Answer 2

Exactly, you already answered your own question. "What if" you ask him to hang out or what if you call him on phone? how will you able to know if there is still a speck of hope for you and him to be together in the near future if you are only sitting there & ask the never-ending "what if"?

But dont push too much, remember that you are now his ex gf and you should not be too demanding, too possesive, too trying hard to get him back. Your purpose of calling and hang out with him again is to "revive the friendship", atleast thats what you can get from each other for now. You and him needs space, you have to admit, he is suffocated thats why you both need a break. But dont lose hope, time cant easily erase that almost 3 long years of relationship, instead it will give you the time to evaluate what is really wrong, why you broke up. As you said, "he got tired" it means he needs to rest for awhile.

when you are trying to revive the friendship with, DONT NAG, dont ARGUE and DONT DISCUSS whatever argumentations you had in the past. Instead, treat him as your best friend. you should have a very tactical move, you should know how to get his trust again. Just remember this, now that you are an ex to him, you have no right to get jealous, nag him or argue with him..
just be there as a friend and dont be too much obvious you are planning to win him back, just be confident and be natural and everyhting will be back to normal

Good luck..

Answer 3

YES u should ask him!
take the chance and if he says no just move on..
hes no the only man in the world for u...but i think hes gonna say yes!

:D
Good Luck!