my bf is in the navy... he wants to get out of the small little town he's stationed in now. he's up for orders and in February he will know for sure where he's going, and he wants to leave california. but i'm here.. i really do not understand why we even got into a relationship when he already had his mind set on leaving california. we've been together for almost a year.. do you think it's too early for me to worry? or should i just let things be until Feb. and then figure everything out? i've grown to love him more and more.. but right now it's hard because he doesn't express his feelings for me, but i know he wants to stay together... how does one get a tough guy to speak his feelings?
we currently have a 3 hour distant relationship. it's hard enough.
he doesnt like being on the phone. doesnt like to write emails or messages. uh.. i dont know how this is going to work out. i wish i had some of his toughness.
2006-11-01 16:15:19 · 7 answers · asked by aliseeah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sincerely hope you aren't confusing toughness for indifference. I was married to someone who didn't express his feelings. We did stay together for six years, but knowing how I felt and how similar it is to what you are going through, I hope you aren't in store for a world of hurt.
Please talk to him openly and let him know your concerns. You should definitely do this sooner than later - when it would hurt even more if it isn't what you want to hear.
I wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you. Just remember that sometimes when we look back it's the unanswered prayers that we are grateful for...
2006-11-01 16:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by lisa_tilton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is first you need to trust his decision on leaving if you say that ya'll really love each other like you say you do! secondly distance is the best way to see if the relationship is worth it you will benefit either way, because you can either gain a great guy or lose him and find the guy of your dreams.try bringing up the possibility of him changing the way he shows his affection towards you and the long distance relationship that you both share. open up the possibilities of you both sharing your lives together you decision should be based solely off how you feel take charge of the situation express how you feel and ask him about the status of your relationship in long term. it sounds like it's a little early to make major decisions,but be aware of the consequences of the decisions you decide to make.
2006-11-01 16:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Honey Love55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's HIS life not your's. You sound very immature and clingy. He joined the Navy so he pretty much HAS to go where they tell him to go, you don't get a say whether you WANT him there or not. I suggest you take the time apart to learn what REAL mature relationships are all about and to do some growing up yourself.
2006-11-01 16:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO TALK TO HIM NOW DONT WAIT
IUNTIL LATER, BECAUSE IF HE REALLY WANT TO LEAVE
CAL. THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO MAKE SOME DECISION
ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP, IT SOUND LIKE HE WANT
OUT OF IT ALL TOGETHER, BUT GET YOU NEED TO
GET EVERYTHING OUT IN THE OPEN..
2006-11-01 16:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it really sounds like he doesn't give a **** about you otherwise he would write, he would email, he would talk on the phone, he would be initiating conversations about where your relationship could be going like, yall getting engaged and you moving with him etc.
2006-11-01 16:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk..just do what ur heart tells u to n think it over no1 here is goin to give u the right ans bcuz only u kno whats going on
2006-11-01 16:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him
2006-11-01 16:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋