Not sure what to do anymore. I have a boyfriend of...about 3 years. We've been through people trying to break us up, his ex trying to get him back...alot. And 1 1/2 years of that he lied to me about something, which wouldn't have been a big deal, but he lied. We got engaged and I thought we were fine...Then I started to have feelings for one of our best friends. I told him because I figured that way I would move on and it'd be done. And then he reciprocated...I don't wanna say feelings because I don't really know how he feels and...now I don't know what to do. I'm starting to think my bf and I only got engaged to try and fix the fact that he lied and that I said yes because I figured that way he wouldn't leave me for his ex...And I'm not sure about things with our friend. If the situation was different, I could see us dating, but I don't want to think like that till I figure things out. I just don't know what to do and would appreciate any feed back.
2006-11-01 16:11:44 · 7 answers · asked by celticangel72986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are feeling for someone else.That mean deep down in side that you didn't really in love with him and it just hasn't hit you yet. I wouldn't leave like that wondering if he would go back to his ex. Cause you Will still feel the same if you were married to him. SO i wouldn't;t live like that. Yes him getting engaged to you was to fix the lie so you have to ask your self did he mean it or not. Under the situation i think he didn't mean it. I would let him go and try this other quy.You never know he might be the one.
2006-11-01 16:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that for a relationship to work the one thing above all else that is important is a strong foundation. However from what you have written and you have asked the question it really sounds as if there is no foundation at all.
You sound as if you and your b/f are quite anal in your attitude and I sense some tit-for-tat going on. If you both truly loved each other if one of you had erred then the love that should have would see it through.
However all I read here is "he lied" and "I have feelings for someone else" and we "only got engaged to try and fix the fact that he lied".
Face it, your relationship is a farce. Move on and grow.
May the universe smile upon you and grant you your heart's desires.
Stef
2006-11-01 16:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by siacono 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe both of you need to take a step back, do NOT date or see anyone else for a month or so and sort all this out. Figure out what it is you each want individually as opposed to as a couple and see if the results mesh at all. Sounds to me as if both of you have singular issues that need to be put to rest. Best of luck in whatever you do.
2006-11-01 16:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have heard the old saying, "if it ain't broke, don't fix it?" Well obviously something in this relationship is broken. You feeling like he would go back to his ex means you don't really trust him and you wanting to hook up with someone else says you don't really want to commit to this relationship especially in marriage. I would move on. There is another old saying. "If you love something, set it free....if it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was" Think about it.
2006-11-01 16:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't get married till you figure it all out. You guys can have a REALLY long engagement if ya need to.
2006-11-01 16:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time. The last thing you want going into a marriage are a lot of "what ifs".
2006-11-01 16:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by E_Soup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry , i really wish i could help ya. sounds like you in middle of something tho
2006-11-01 16:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋