We have been friends since the third grade. Now we are seniors in high school. A couple weeks ago I walked in on them when they were in the middle of a sexual act. Needless to say, we were all surprised and I just walked away. We never mentioned it since then, but I am not sure what to do. I thought we were all good friends, but now I feel like they have a special relationship and I think I'm kind of jealous of what they have. I have never really had any thoughts like that before, but I am wondering if I should just try it out and maybe join them one time and see what happens.
What do you think of this?
2006-11-01 16:03:28 · 16 answers · asked by chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost, don't try something if you're not comfortable doing.
Second, I think that you need to accept that you're just feeling jealousy because they're discovering who they are at a time when people have no clue. It will take some time for you to get used to the idea, but for now just try to think of them as your heterosexual friends who happened to start dating. They're still the same people that were your best friends before, they just have different likes than you. Imagine if you didn't like the color yellow, and they decided that it was their favorite color. It's nothing against you, it's just their favorite color now. (ok, that was a little lame, but you get the idea - I hope)
Good luck. Just remember that they're still your friends.
2006-11-01 16:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ITS REALLY HARD TO TAKE ALL THESE ANSWERS FROM ALL THE "UNENLIGHTENED" PEOPLE ON HERE! FIRST OFF..IF THEY WERE UR BEST FRIENDS BEFORE U KNEW ABOUT THEM ...WHAT EXACTLY HAS CHANGED?? THEY HAVEN'T ...THEY ARE THE SAME PEOPLE THEY WERE BEFORE U KNEW. JUST TALK TO THEM OPENLY AND YOU WILL FIND OUT THAT IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU...ITS JUST THE WAY GOD MADE THEM. IF YOU WERE GAY TOO ..BELEIVE ME YOU WOULD ALREADY KNOW IT. BUT, PLEASE DON'T LET WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS ABOUT THEM INFLUIENCE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM. MAKE UP YOUR OWN MIND AFTER HAVING TALKED TO THEM. I TRULY THINK YOU WILL REALIZE THAT THEY ARE STILL GOOD FRIENDS AND THATS WHAT COUNTS ...NOT THE FACT THEY ARE GAY...
BY THE WAY...MY TWO VERY BEST FRIENDS IN THE WORLD ARE GAY AND THEY ARE MUCH BETTER FRIENDS THAN MOST OF THE STRAIGHT ONES I'VE HAD!!
2006-11-02 03:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by honestypleeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Dont be gay!!!
2. Ditch them!
3. Find a damn girlfriend or friend that is not gay
4. Slap them across the face for me
5. Why are they gay?
2006-11-02 00:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by dave_4890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt subject yourself to something you're not comfortable with JUST to feel included. It sounds like you're feeling left out. I would confront them with this and tell them how you feel. If you've been friends for THAT long, I'm sure they'll understand how uncomfortable this is for you. Plus they'll try and work with you to find a solution thats comfortable for everyone involved.
2006-11-02 00:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cappagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be open minded with them. i don't mean join them just accept them as your friends. i had a couple of gay friends and i was scared of them at first but i soon looked past the fact they were gay. we remained friends and hung out but i told them not to make any moves. they understood and respected that. gay people are not freaks just prefer different things. as far as joining them? that's your decision.
2006-11-02 00:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god dont!!dont they think that having sex with the same genders will cause diseases?if u have feelings on them,better you avoid them and try to befriend girls more.its natural u re jealous of ur best friends who seems closer to each other than you do,but that doesnt mean you shold danger urself in doing what gays do
2006-11-02 00:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for them ! Hope they don't die of AIDS. I am sure they had to fight with their conscience quite a while God gives it to us to show us right from wrong. After a while if they ignore this God given conscience then God gives them over to their own filthyness. A reprobate mind.
2006-11-02 00:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask them how long they have been lovers for a start. Or is it a expermental thing. Tell them how you feel ,that your curious about it.But if you decide to 'join' in please do the smart thing and have some kind of protection.
2006-11-02 00:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Joan C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're all three gay.... and if you were all such good friends, why didn't you say something sensible to them like, "Wus Up with THIS"?
2006-11-02 00:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oy g'valt! Meshugna!
2006-11-02 00:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋