So, I took some very good advice and told my bf I'm a sadist (someone who gets turned on by iflicting pain onto others) but I told him that I don't want to ever hurt him or any other man, and that it's just a fantasy, he seemed okay with it, but now everytime I touch him he jumps a little, and when we kiss, his lips are all tight and his eyes are scrunched, he has the expression of a person waiting to get punched in the face. Just last night we where making out and my hand ran through his hair (I didn't pull it or anything like that) and he yelped and nearly fell off the couch, what do I do now? I keep reasuring him, but I don't think he believes me.
2006-11-01 15:53:25 · 13 answers · asked by StarGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it might just take a little time. You have told him it was just a fantasy and that you would never hurt him and that is all you can do. He might just be a little jumpy about it. But he is still with you and it will just take time. Hopefully after your reassurances and you not hurting him (which you wouldn't) he will get that it is fantasy and maybe will let you inact some fantasies. Have you discussed his fantasies as well? It might be that he has some on the same lines as yours. I wouldn't worry too much about this and never think that you are messed up for feeling the way you do. It's a part of you and you hurt no one and are just being true to yourself. No thing to feel guilty about at all. I envy you because I have still not told my girl about my fetish. It took courage to do what you did and that's great. Just hang in there and eventually he wil see that there is nothign to be worried about. Take care and good luck.
2006-11-02 04:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by rolandofgileadiscool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting Quality superstars with tonnes of potential and pulling power leave the company so easily and overlooking the big picture and concentrating on the bottom line. For example Brock Lesner was an exceptional talent was still young had a good 10 years in him and they just send him on his way, i know he got out of his contract but the WWE should have made more of an effort to keep him. Kurt Angle is another class act, quite easily the best wrestler at the time and he walks to TNA?? Why in gods name did vince not offer him some sort of incentive to stay? Booker T also had a great character and should have been looked after just like some others when it comes to drug test *COUGH TRIPLE H* Bobby Lashley was an awesome prospect let go, and the WCW boys, Goldberg the f%@ked that monumentally, although after watching Armageddon 2003 just recently i did notice goldbergs lack of creativity in the ring but come on he was a massive name and under used and let go far to easily, he had more pulling power than Triple H and during the Triple threat with Kane and the Game it was obvious from the sounding of his music till Triple H winning the title that the fans came to see Goldberg over anyone else. So why was he allowed to walk so easily? And apart from the obvious other WWE mistakes i believe that having Rey Mysterio Vs Batista 3 or 4 weeks in a row on Smackdown as the main event to be an complete and utter joke considering the fought each other at the PPVs also!!! like come on over doing it much??
2016-05-23 10:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh screw him. That is absolutely ridiculous. If you told him it's just a fantasy then he has no reason to trip. I am a sadist to, thank god no ones reacted to me like that I probably would punch them in the face LMAO.
But seriously if you aren't acting on it and it's just a fantasy then he needs to stop buggin out on you like that. He yelped and fell off the couch LOL. He wants it Take him over and hurt him girl he will LOVE it.
2006-11-01 16:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by LovePotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him you're a sadist was probably not a great choice (though I applaud you for being honest, not too many of you now a days) but if he's getting all jumpy I would just go to him and bring it up. If he fears you maybe something's wrong here. However, you could turn it into a sexual thing. My best advice is to just tell him that you feel he's changed since you told him.
2006-11-01 15:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by alleyboy_24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh...That was really funny that he has the expression of someone waiting to get punched in the face...After you laugh, bring it up to him again and tell him you didn't tell him that information to ruin your relationship and that you guys need to work on things.
2006-11-01 15:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he sounds like a dog with his tail between his legs....hehehe sorry good luck
2006-11-01 15:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a tough one. I would just keep reassuring him and treating him with utmost gentility.
2006-11-01 15:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have completed half the trap.
you must now persuade him that his sexual desire for you is stronger than his fear.
then he will be yours to command for some considerable time.
2006-11-01 16:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
inflict some pain then girl! = p
2006-11-01 16:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you WISH that he wasn't so afraid?
2006-11-01 16:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋