Well 2 years ago i had my first girlfriend, (we will call her girlfriend A). We went through a lot of times together, good and bad. I pretty much felt like i fell in love with her when i met her. As time went on, she broke my heart. I then moved on with my life and had a new girlfriend (girlfriend B). time went on and girlfriend A wanted to get back together so i broke up with girlfriend B. Not even a few months back together she broke my heart again and that relationship was over. Girlfriend B wanted another chance and we have been happier than ever.
Here is my question... with girlfriend A we used to talk on the phone 5-10 times a day and see each other like every single day. Now with girlfriend B she is the nicest caring loving girl in the world and couldnt ask for anything more. The only thing is we only talk like once a day on the phone and see each other one or two times during the week.
Is there something wrong with that? Any help to fix that would be greatly appreciated.
2006-11-01 15:39:38 · 11 answers · asked by pele3844 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girlfriend A is quite obviously not a love choice here and should be dropped. As for Girlfriend B you should be happy that you have a great loving relationship and that you get to spend time with her at all. However if you find this difficult to cope with you have two other choices.
a) You can bring it up with her. Say that you do enjoy the time that you spend and conversations you have with her and wish that it could be longer and more often. She should be able to understand your love for her and necessity to be with her.
b) If you find yourself to be one of those people who feel it necessary to be with your partner 90% of the day (not saying anything bad, just making a statement) maybe Girlfriend B isn't the girl for you (though the way you expressed your question makes it seem highly improbable.)
2006-11-01 15:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by alleyboy_24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of you have a trusting and honest realtionship, I think there's nothing wrong with that. Unless you want more-In which case, I would talk to her about it (So you won't come acros as smothering her if you do it without talking to her) and see what she says. I have no idea how old bot of you are, but the best way to any lasting relationship, whether it's intimate or platonic, is honesty and openess. If you feel like there's something missing, then tell her! I'm sure she wouldn't mind talking or spending more time with you at all!
2006-11-01 15:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that. Talking to each other once a day on the phone and seeing each other once or twice a week is fine.
It's obsessive to do any more than that. Plus, people have lives and things they need to do. They don't have the time to see each other every day due to work and chores they need to do.
Girlfriend B sounds like an angel and you're lucky to have her. There's nothing to "fix" here.
2006-11-01 15:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you and girlfriend A did not work out is b/c u spent too much time together. Girlfriend B has a great idea of how things are supposed to work...Do not be clingy and do not make things worse than what they are b/c u are bringing old things into the new realtionship.
2006-11-01 15:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely nothing wrong with that... 5-10 times a day is needy and codependant...
I'm seeing my guy a couple times a week and we talk like every other day or so. I'm not a big phone person anyway (especially when cell reception is spotty LOL) so we pretty much talk on the phone just to make plans. I prefer to look at his gorgeous face when I talk to him, can't do that on the phone :)
2006-11-01 15:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend are madly in love and we only talk about twice a week. There is nothing wrong with that. You just might not have the time to talk to each other but as long as you love each other that is all that matters. When you finally do see her or talk to her I guarantee you will be a lot happier. You know they say" Absence makes the heart grow fonder"
2006-11-01 15:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing rong with having a gf you only talk to once a day, its usially best because u can never really get sick of her and u can always look more forward to talking to her and seeing her other days. You could always try catching up with her more often or evn calling her and surprising her, girls love that.
Hope it helps xxx
2006-11-01 15:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl b sounds like a normal relationship! sounds like a good deal for me
2006-11-01 15:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl a) wants to use you as a rebound
girl b) likes you and has a life
2006-11-01 15:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by luis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good, ur relationship with gf a, was probably really weird
2006-11-01 15:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by A S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋