Today a girl that I have been seeing for a while told me that she never had romantic feelings for me. She said that she still wanted to be friends and that she felt really bad for leading me on. Well, anyways, I had a suspicion that she isn't over her ex that she dated two years ago and she probably wants him, or somebody exactly like him. From other people that knew them at the time, I happened to know that he was just rebounding with her, but I am pretty sure that she had no idea. Since I was angry, I let this out and I think it hurt her pretty bad. I have no interest in getting back with her after what she had said to me, and know that if I had any chances, at all, I probably blew them. But I would want her friendship back. Do you think this is possible? I feel really, really aweful about what I said. How bad is it that I told her this?
2006-11-01 15:35:35 · 14 answers · asked by beagun0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess I should say that we were pretty good friends before we tried this out. I don't think she used me as much as tried to give me what I wanted and realized it wasn't right for her. It hurt me a lot, though, but I think she is right.
2006-11-01 15:41:15 · update #1
She used you. Don't feel bad. Shes not much of a friend either so your not losing much.
2006-11-01 15:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill. Let her go for a while. She will realize what a great guy you are and will want to be friends, and maybe more. The grass looks greener when you're staring at a single blade, but overall, it is not so green. Wait until she gets a bad boyfriend. She just might run back! You just need to chill.
2006-11-01 15:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were hurt and it was natural for you to lash out at her like that. But it was mean spirited and you need to apologize to her in writing. Buy a nice card that dosen't have anything written inside and tell her you are very sorry for being such a prick. Don't make it too long and mushy cause then she will think you want her back. Just tell her that she hurt you and without thinking you said hurtful things. Ask for her forgiveness but don't wait around for it and don't beg for it. She may or may not forgive you but at least you tried to amend things. Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-01 15:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't know this information yourself, you heard it from others. Spreading gossip like this ended up hurting both of you. Maybe if you're honest that you struck out at her because you felt so hurt you can repair the friendship.
2006-11-01 15:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by SueBru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you posted. Show her this question. If she can forgive your outburst, then the remorse you've just shown may help her get over the words and remember what you both had.
2006-11-01 15:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Darkwraith83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we say really hurtful things in anger. if you tell her that she hurt you and you lashed out but you are so very sorry, then i am positive with time, she can learn to be friends again. Good luck
2006-11-01 15:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS BAD .. BUT IF SHE REALLY LIKES YOU AS A FRIEND .. SHE'LL GET OVER IT .. JUST LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WERE ANGRY AND THAT YOU WERE SORRY FOR SAYING THAT... THATS JUST THE FEELING THAT YOU GET WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HIM. . I MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST .. YOU CANT LIE TO HER TO GET HER FRIENDSHIP BACK .. THATS THE ONLY WAY I SEE IT
2006-11-01 15:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by MiZ_PuMpKiN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still want to be more than friends, just be honest with yourself and then her. Don't try to be just friends if thats not really what you are wanting.
2006-11-01 15:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by justcurious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you take back what you said and apologize. Give her space. Sometimes we lose friends; c'est la vie; learn from the mistake, don't repeat it, and move on.
2006-11-01 15:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by klmita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. Just tell het how you feel and just what you said here. Tell her you are sorry and ask her is she still wants to be your friend. Good Luck!!
2006-11-01 15:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Yellow :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋