How do I write On invitations no children allow?

Answer 1

You do not need to write it on the invitation. Proper etiquette is to put only the names of those invited on the envelope. For example Mr. and Mrs. Smith (If you have an inner envelope, you also would write this or if you know them well, John and Jane) If you were inviting children, you would write Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family and on the inner envelope you would write John, Jane, Kate, and Tom.

Answer 2

As many stated already - this is usually done by placing only the names of the individuals you want to attend on the envelope. The problem is that many people don't realize wha tthat means and you may get reply cards with the children included even though they are not on the invitation.

The best way to avoid that is to customize the reply cards. One person mentioned the option of circling how many guests will be there (1 or 2) Another option is to have the couples names already printed on the reply card, with a check box by each "Check If Attending" or have the cards made up with spaces to fill in the names of guests attending and only leave enough spaces for the guests are want in attendance.

Those are also great ways to make sure that you don't get uninvited guests - like your second cousin's new boyfriend, etc.

Answer 3

You don't, that's a tacky move. On the outside envelope address the invitation to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. Do not put "and Family" On the inside envelope address the invitation John and Jane or Mr. and Mrs. Smith, depending on how you normally refer to them. This should be their clue that they aren't to bring their children. Also the response card should not have a space for how many guests they are bringing it should just have a line with an M to the left of it. This is their second clue that they aren't to bring anyone but Mr. and Mrs. However, some people will not follow this etiquette and you will have to call them when the response comes back and say that you noticed that they included extra people on the response card and the venue or the budget just can't accommodate the extra people. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hello!

I would not put "Adults Only" on your invitation it may offend the older generation and/or those who are etiquette sticklers.

A new trend is actually printing the guests names RIGHT on the REPLY CARD! They will know EXACTLY who is invited then.

Your inner envelope is also used to give the guest an idea WHO is invited. So if you want "Mr. and Mrs. Jones" ONLY, that is what you write on your inner envelope. If you do want the kidders you would write: "Mr. and Mrs. Jones and Jonny"

Also, tell a family member who likes to talk. They will spread the word for you.

Remember, some may STILL bring their kidders. The reality of it is some people do what they want no matter what.

Just remember it is YOUR special day and NOBODY can take that away from YOU!

Enjoy!

Answer 5

It is not considered polite to put Adults Only, or No children allowed on formal wedding invitations however, as many people who have answered your question here have stated, sometimes people are just so obtuse they don't know the rules of etiquette and like someone else stated, they think that you are thrilled to accomodate their little darling also. I liked the answer that stated "We have reserved two places for you." This is as clear as you can get without saying "If you bring your kids you will be turned away at the door".

One other situation comes to mind though. If you are inviting out of town guests who have young children, they may not want to miss your wedding, but may have trouble leaving their children for a day to a few days to travel to your wedding. It would be a lovely accomodation to provide childcare if you can afford it, or to recommend a sitter and arrange for them to watch children (in a different area than the wedding and reception) of out of town guests who otherwise could not attend your wedding if they did not bring their kids with them when they come to your town. You certainly don't want your walk down the aisle, or the first dance at your reception marred by the howling cry of an unhappy little one, yet you want the parents to attend or you would not have invited them. Be creative, be kind, ask them what arrangements they have made for their kids while attending your wedding. Also, if you find out that someone plans to attend with kids in tow, I vote for calling, explaining that for xyz reasons you prefer the ceremony and reception to be attended by only adults but you would gladly recommend a child care specialist (or some such statement).

In a day and age where people print their own wedding invitations on their computer and word them any way they choose, need we be so picky about proper etiquette in wording invitations. Not for "courtesy's sake" but if we truly want to be courteous people, we will consider the feelings of our guests who, after all, we have invited to be a part of this important day.

Answer 6

If the invitation does not say Mr and Ms Smith and Family (or the children's names) they should not bring the children. Of course not all people are that bright and you could do one of the lines the other people have written. Otherwise when they return their rsvp's, check to see how many people they say are coming. If it is more than the 2 of them, call and say...hey I noticed your card read ____ people, was calling to find out if there is a conflict as we only planned on the 2 of you....
good luck....

Answer 7

You don't. On the inside envelope, it should read, "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith".
If children were welcome, you would write,
"Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Bobby and Susie".
You should never write "and Family" on the envelope. If they have a mother, father, or other relative living with them and you write 'and family' on the envelope, you're including anyone who lives under that roof. Children's names should be listed under the parents' names.
As for excluding children, what we did for my first wedding was include two 'meal tickets'- we printed out slips of paper which were collected at the reception door. No ticket= no admittance. That cut down on the people who didn't RSVP showing up and walking in as well.
It may mean a little extra work, but it helps get your point across when the envelope is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and they only receive two meal tickets instead of one for each family member.

Answer 8

The bride and groom ask that there be no children present at the wedding. Sorry for any incontinence this may cause.

Honestly most people are very understanding of the No kid’s thing. Plus you have to understand that this is your day, DONT sacrifice what you want to happen on this day. Hope you have a wonderful wedding.

Answer 9

The reply card could read " Please join us for an adult reception at 6 o'clock at such and such location" People should understand that receptions can run as much as $75 or more a plate. I personally look forward to an adult night out without my darling son. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Write down on the RSVP card how many guests you are expecting before you send them out. They can send it back to you if they wish to attend. This will give them the idea.

I did that on mine since my reception was held at a bar/lounge. It was totally inappropriate to bring babies to my event. My sister in law wanted to bring her 2 month old baby and I put my foot down and said no because I knew everyone would be drinking and a crying baby would not be welcome. Expect some guests to be upset but don't let that get to you. This is your wedding and you should do it your way.