I have seen this on the mainstream wedding chat boards as well. Brides feel (and are told) that tipping is mandatory and to figure out an amount to tip before the wedding even rolls around.
You never tip a waiter in a restaurant before they serve you. And you never calculate in your head on the drive there "how much should I tip them?". So why do you do that with wedding vendors?
Back in your parents' and grandparents' day, a tip was never given unless it was a job well done above and beyond the call of duty. But today it seems like it's mandatory for simply doing their job no matter what the quality of service was.
Of course you don't tip the caterer because they automatically include the gratituity which a fancy name for a tip. But everyone else it should be based on the quality of service the day of and the tip should not be given until you see the final service in action. So why did it become customary to hand out tips without waiting to see the final service in action?
2006-11-01 15:30:28 · 6 answers · asked by Cinnamon 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Agreed!
I only tip when the service is good, usually the standard 15% of the bill.
2006-11-01 15:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right - tips are based on service BUT....
A wedding is a very expensive day, so it is wise to plan tips in advance. This does not mean you "have" to tip if the service you recieve is substandard, but financially, it is very smart to set aside the amount you will use for tipping if the service is good. If you end up tipping, you don't come up short becuase you planned for it. If you decided the tip was not earned, you have extra, oh well.
If you did your homework before hiring vendors, there is a pretty good chance you will be tipping.
2006-11-02 01:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can use your discretion, but dont be miserably cheap. If a waiter serves you a glass of wine, you can throw a dollar at them. If it's at a wedding just wisper that you would like to give them a tip at the end of the reception. Usually people throw money around when they are in good spirits or have had too many spirits, but dont feel like you have to prove your "tipping muscle" just because it's a special occasion. Just dont' be too cheap.
2006-11-01 15:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Written like someone who never had to rely on a tip to help pay the rent or put food on the table.
Why be so stingy?
This is suppose to be a grand celebration!
If you can spend a few thousand on a dress that you will only wear once ...then splurge a bit and help a working woman/man make their living!
2006-11-01 16:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Generally, for weddings, a gratuity and tax of 18% is included in the bill.
2006-11-01 19:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't do it period. I paid over a grand for an open bar, they got their money.
2006-11-01 15:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋