what should i do when my fiance doesn't want to have sex but once every 3 mos. and i need it more. he will tease me all day but when we have the opportnity to do something he's either to tired or hurting to have sex .i just need get some advise, without being unfaithful. thanks, lonely girl in Tennessee
2006-11-01 15:25:04 · 13 answers · asked by jason c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break it off, because this is either a prelude to how controlling he is or, he is cheating. Stop spinning your wheels.
2006-11-01 15:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby you need to talk with him and he only wants it once every three months don't it seems like something is wrong with that picture you sure he is not messing around on you i would check that out and have him go to the doctor and see if he has a medical problem so i would put the wedding back until i get some truthful answers cause if not you're going to cheat but think before you leap good luck
2006-11-01 23:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you can't find a comfortable medium that both of you can accept DON'T GET MARRIED! Your marriage will be full of regret and heartache and you will end up separating anyways. Sexual needs are different for different people and not getting yours fulfilled will cause you a lot of stress and anxiety. In the end you will either end up cheating on him, hating him, or possibly both. Take my advice as someone who has went down that road. Life can be extremely miserable when you are in a constant state of sexual frustration.
2006-11-01 23:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need to have a serious talk with him. You need to lay out what you want and maybe even set up a time where you know both of you can agree on. Once every 3 months would be torture to me too. If he can't give you what you want or compromise on something then I don't think he is worth having if you can't be happy.
2006-11-01 23:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Is he on meds? Is he depressed, diabetic, all of these things can make someone loose their drive, if you truly love him you will sit down and talk to him about it, sex isn't everything in a relationship but it's a big part of it. Communication is also. If you can't talk to him now you really won't be able to once that ring is on your finger, good luck.
2006-11-01 23:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once every three months thats crazy coming from a guy. You should talk to him more about it...ask him why the hell would you want to do that? Or you can just tell him how you really feel. He shouldnt get upset if he is ur fiance.
2006-11-01 23:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you need to make a date for sex. But you need to find some resolution before you get married if his schedule is not going to work for you.
2006-11-01 23:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one way to get an orgasm, but before you go getting it on your own, try to find ways to make him want it more, like sex toys or fondling him.If that doesnt work a good old vibrator can become your best friend.
2006-11-01 23:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm tough one. Sounds like something else is going on with him on the side. But that is not always true I know but is the most likely thing. Maybe you should try to be more sexy like dancing for him.
2006-11-01 23:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by wolann31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you gay or something? Assuming you're a girl and he is a guy, ie NORMAL, I would say that you need to tell him you need more bone.
2006-11-01 23:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋