I've had this huge crush on this girl I've known for a few months lately and I try to talk to her as much as I can but she never seemed interested in a girlfriend kind of manner.
I talked to her a few minutes ago and she was upset...so I asked her what was wrong and she said 'guys' and was talking about how guys lead her on and then change their mind the next day. Also, how she is tired of being the third wheel when she goes out with her friend and her boyfriend...and how she feels lonely and hates being single. I just kept telling her to date good guys and how she was really pretty and smart...
I don't know if it's just me liking her and she has no interest whatsoever or what. If I tell her that I like her, I'm afraid she'd be freaked out...and I at least want her as a friend.
Girls are freaking confusing.
Advice please, thanks.
2006-11-01 15:14:05 · 21 answers · asked by michaelxcore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all girls are not confusing your crush is confusing I mean if you want to talk to her and she want's to annoy you then why do you want to be with her? She seems like a drama queen and an attention hogger if she does'nt like to be lonley then all you are going to be if you get with her is a chew toy until she can find a man.
2006-11-01 15:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by smart smart. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey man, I think she LIKES someone and he confused her. he was inconsistent. was that YOU?
now that we got in the opening sentence, let's take a look at the WHOLE thing:
so the two of you are friends, and you dig her but she's not really biting. I have been the third wheel MANY a time and boy does it reek! I feel her pain! When I WASN'T the third wheel, I made sure to include the person who WAS the third wheel and included him in the conversation. alot. and you have no idea how important that is. it probably annoyed the guy who was into me but in retrospect he probably respected that about me. it's the sign of a datable person. the lonely and single causes the third wheel effect. and almost ALWAYS happens when out with other couples. Your advice is sound and boosting her self esteem is a good idea. she needs a pick me up. since you are obviously itnerested, you need to figure out if you are the one she is itnerested in. this is actually easier than it sounds. is she hanging around you? does she loiter around you at school or work? or just happen to be in your area? people find ways and excuses to be near those they like. in your case, you probably need to ditch the excuses and take a risk. assuming you are not the inconsistent toad, you can safely assume you have a shot with her. go ahead and ask her out. but just for coffee or soda. just to give her a chance to see you in a different light. dont' try to be aggressive.
2006-11-01 15:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes girls are confusing. As you explain it she see's you as a friend or brother. Start out simple with lunch or a quick coffee break. Do something simple together, not as a date, just having fun so she is not alone or a 3rd wheel. Sometime a girl will never see you more than a person to talk to. But if you are lucky a be the friend she needs and you can make her laugh and enjoy your company, she might see you in a differant light. good luck , no one really knows what women want.
2006-11-01 15:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay as a woman I will supply you a few recommendation. Women are complicated, hell I'm nonetheless harassed approximately my possess gender generally. But it kind of feels that possibly anything might have occurred along with her private existence or possibly it is that point of the month for her. But for those who like her take a look at texting her or calling her extra most commonly and being taking good care of her. If there's anything fallacious along with her private existence then possibly she simply demands a buddy to support her get by way of it. If I am correct and he or she's..um...bleeding...She'll be ok in approximately per week. Also a work of recommendation. If you favor this woman A LOT inform her earlier than anyone else does ok? Cause it sucks wasting them to anyone else.
2016-09-01 05:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, actually every girl is different and there is no sterotype answer..thats why you say girls are confusing and we say guys are confusing.For example me and my goodfriend Julia, we are both different people when it comes to relationship..although in most things we agree, there are some things where we are not the same.A guy using an approach on me might work but on Julia it backfires. ..you know what, you dont have to tell her you like her..just ask her out one day and make sure both of you are alone for that day.maybe go for a movie or something...flirt with her and see her response..if she likes you she will flirt back..maybe compliment her a bit, see how she reacts..if she s uncomfortable stop.if she s giving go on signals then you have chemistry and then you can think how to tell her that you like her..this way you wont lose her as a friend as well.
2006-11-01 15:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by GIna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing would be to actually ask her out on a date. not like "hey, do you wanna be my girlfriend" kind of asking, but a "hey, you know, i would really like to take you out on a date". if she asks what it's all about, just tell her that you like her, and would like to have more than just a friendship with her. if she says "no" than leave it at that, be a good friend and let her make her choice. remember, you can't MAKE someone like you, but you can always ask and find out if they do. if she is mature then if she says "no" it won't change what you have between the two of you. true, it may make things rocky for a couple days if she thinks it's wierd, but after a couple days, trust me, it'll go right back to normal. hope this helps.
2006-11-01 15:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters.dont' ruin a friendship to see if you can get a relationship.my best advice to you right now is, be there for her, a friend can sometimes be more than a lover.ask her if she wants to hang out nothing romantic. you don't want to put her on the spot.be a good friend now and grow into her. In order to get closer to her you have to get her mind of off everybody else.if she called you to tell you her problems you got your foot through the door. that means she trusts you. now stay in touch and slowly work your way in .when things are done in a hurry, they never come out right ,so take your time.
2006-11-01 15:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by bigwormcustoms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be trying to drop a hint for you!
Go ahead and tell her... you really appreciate her as a friend, but you also wonder if it might be more. You risk a short term embarrassment, but isn't the possibility worth it? I just had this conversation with a guy friend, and we are now 'dating'...
Good luck :)
2006-11-01 15:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you like her. one - she'll feel good that you actually told her, guessing from the convo, she probably either likes you, or suspects you like her
two - if she really is a good friend, then she wouldn't throw away your friendship for something like that. but if this happens, be cautious that you will have to get over her. and thats when you two can return to being just friends
2006-11-01 15:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by BABBYK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you like her and see what happens. I would not be freaked out if a nice guy said he liked me especially after dealing with a jerk. Be brave, tell her, what have you got to lose?
2006-11-01 15:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋