What would you want to know about someone before you got married to them?

Answer 1

Do they want kids? How are you going to handle finaces? Do they have any doubts about you two? No stds! How far would they go to stay together (counsling, etc.) What are their goals and carear plans. The rest you should know before you think of marriage

Answer 2

1. Do they want kids?
1a. When do they want kids?
2. How would they discipline the kids?
3. Are they above doing ANY housework?
4. Are they hygienic or dirty slobs who expect you to pick up after them?
5. Do they have temper issues?
6. Are they controlling, like you can't wear this or that, or wear makeup, etc.
7. Are they impulsive and compulsive shoppers, for example, would they buy a new computer just to make their computer games better every 2-3 years, or a computer and a bowflex during the same week, and if you say anything then you get cursed at.
8. Do they want to eat out every single day, even though u don't because you don't want to get fat.
9. Do they always want to buy lunch for their friends?
10. Do they put their friends above you?
11. Do they blast the tv every night at bed time because they can't sleep when the tv is off.
12. Are they always in a rush when you go anywhere unless its a restaurant or chuckee cheese?
13. Would they always say they want to take you kid to chuke cheese, but when you get there he only wants to go off and play by himself.
14. Would he be a nonstop horndog and somehow manage to talk about sex during every single sentence that comes out of his mouth, including in front of your child.
15. Would he try to grope you and grab your boobs and butt 20,000 times during a 24 hour period 365 days a week?
16. Would he ask your child "who do you like better mommy or daddy", and if the child responds mommy then he would get mad...seriously, the kid just turned 3.
17. Would he tell you you and your child you guys had together needed to be out of his house by halloween because he was emailling some chick from overseas and was having her come to see him...while also wiring her money for her passport, visa, plane ticket, etc?
18. Would he accuse you of cheating whenever he's on a business trip, or get paranoid if he hears the voice of a male on the tv background noise?
19. Would he be a compulsie liar about everything, even things that don't even matter?
20. Would he buy a whole bunch of action movies, and then tell you he bought them for you?
21. Would he punch a hole in 2 different doors and a crockpot because he's not able to control his anger.
I can't think of anymore because i'm tired...but pay attention to all the things that kinda annoy you now...they'll get worse once your married.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I would want to know about previous relationships, and how they felt about them, and if any sparks were still there.
Also about if they have been in jail and what offenses they had.
You need to know about the credit history. This is more important than you think, it can affect you in the long run, know what your going to be dealing with.
Do they have children, and do they pay support regulary? This is also important, need no surprises of a lost kid popping up with a court order to take them to jail for non payment and then you putting up your money to help your love and you losing out..
You need to know the hang-ups. Quirks, likes, dislikes, compatability of being able to accept the weirdness when it comes out.
You need to know if they like to share chores, because this can cause arguments later, the understanding of how each of you feel about doing housework when both of you are working, who shares the chores, and are they a slob?
You need to know how they handle arguments. Silent treatments, or running out and finding a lover for the night. Or do they talk it out with you?
You need to discuss the money situation, and how the bills will be handled. Is it your money or our money. If he wants a new boat and you want a needed new car, how will that be handled? Will he help pay for the car? Or is it all my money?
Are there alot of single friends in your relationship? Will they be spending alot of time with them while you sit at home?
Are they expecting to have kids? Want kids? Wants to wait for a while? Know where you are standing.
Are there drugs in the relationship? If so, dont do it. The drugs need to leave now. It will ruin all.
History of how well the family gets along, what type of family is in the background? Is it a family you get along with, there are many holidays involved throughout a year, you will be visiting.
These are a few issues to get you started. Think hard. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, apart from really knowing him as a person and if we're compatible and love each other passionately that's why we're thinking of getting married, then I'd like to know if he's really serious about taking and living his vows of matrimony.If he's serious about that then everything else will follow.

Answer 5

The true ROSTER.... I would def need to know who and how many before I even think of marrying someone. I feel its important to know where someone has been so you know where you can go with that person.

Answer 6

If they have ever been with anyone of the same sex, who has tested positive or had and ex test positive for stds and if they have ever been a party in an affair. Those things are deep but it's your life, don't let someone's dishonesty or fear of telling you take away your choices.

Answer 7

The dynamic between a man and his mother.......is it loving, respectful, considerate, caring, giving? What does his credit history look like, does he have any criminal charges, if he pays child support, does he do it on time and consistantly? To mention only but a few things.........
this from a divorced, 40 something woman...

Answer 8

Well, hopefully when you decide to marry someone, you have spent long enough time with them to know almost everything about them.

Answer 9

do they have an STD? jk. are they interested in having kids, where they want to live, how rich they are, and why they want to marry you ;-)) seriously, you would want to know what they really think of you and why they are marrying you. make sure its for love and not for money, etc...

the best of wishes to you if you really are getting married! i hope i helped! (yeah right!)

Answer 10

I would want to know as much as possible coz I married a virgin when i was 36........ it wasnt good, it wasnt fun and I couldnt teach him anything....... u either have compatibility or u dont. it isnt a skill u can learn.