ok so my bf was chatting w/ me on ym and he was talking about this other girl that he thought was hot. and it really makes me mad.. not like ill slap his sorry *** but angry like hey over here im ur gf kinda. and he says that if shes desperate he would date her and its making me even more nad what do i do? talk to him seriously about how i feel or let it go?
2006-11-01 14:33:25 · 35 answers · asked by The Lovely Ladies of Soccer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok ya heres the thing. i think he just hasnt quite warmed up to it yet.. bcuz we just got together like.. 2 weeks ago so maybe he just has to get out of routine or summin bu still i dont want to let him go yet.. bcuz were just getting started and i care about him
2006-11-01 14:42:37 · update #1
Kick his *** then kick him to the curb. He obviously isn't thinking about your feelings.
2006-11-01 14:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age there are a few answers. If you're in your early teens or late teens move on. Don't waist your life on some immature bf. He's not going to change. If you are older, take a step back and ask yourself if what he is saying or doing with other girl is worth spending the rest of your life with a person like him. Have a serious talk w/him. If not buying don't be giving. Your feelings should be one of the most important things you bring into a relationship. The one and only time my husband compliment another woman before me he complimented I how nice I looked, I slapped him upside the head. That was over 30 yrs. ago. He know if he wants to look at another woman, I'd better not be around. Couples should always respect each other especially in public.
2006-11-01 14:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by pmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda of good in a way that he's being this open with you, but in this case, its borderline dissrespectful to your feelings. Tell him that you don't appreciate the way he's talking about some ither girl right in front of you, and ask him if this is a sign that he's not being completely serious with you.
Confront him but don't be all psycho on his ***, just talk to him in a reasonable tone, enough to show that you're concerned, and upset. This will make him guilty instead of feeling smothered if you were to hound him!
2006-11-01 14:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by mademoiselle0567 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him to quit being such a jerk. He should have more sense than that. How would he feel if you were talking about how hot a guy was. I understand how that makes you mad, kinda makes you think that he thinks she's hotter than you are. And thats not cool. Seriously I might let it go this once, but if it becomes a habit, you have to say something to him about it.
2006-11-01 14:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by francesca e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your BF truly love each other you should be able to have a serious conversation. If he can't handle you bringing up things like this then you don't need him. You should be able to talk openly about your feelings no matter what. However do try to keep your statements to "I" staements, such as, I fell like you don't care about me when you talk like that. It helps to keep him from feeling cornered and confrontational, and will help the conversation run more smoothly. And if he just doesn;t get it or doesn't care, then you need to ditch him. HE doesn't respect you the way you deserve.
2006-11-01 14:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by flybaby1313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's doing it just because he knows you'll react.
I would simply say - "Ya know - it really hurts when you talk like that about other chicks - I feel like ur disrespecting me"
Be honest, but don't make a huge deal of it - once you've said it, move on to something else.
If he keeps doing it... then maybe you're gonna have to re-think your relationship, but give him the benefit of the doubt. Some guys are just clueless when it comes to other people's feelings.
2006-11-01 14:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it bothers you that much you should be like hey we are going out and we have been going out with this long and you are always talking about other girls and how such and such girl is hot. Of you think that they are so hot you can go out with them. I makes me feel like crap because I am the one that is yours and I think that you need to make a little change or something like that. He he looks at girls but doesn't say anything to you than it is normal he is a guy.
2006-11-01 14:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by vivvity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say 'Bye, you want her?! you can have her!!' and get rid of him. Who says that to their gf?! What a looser, he's trying to get you jealous and push your buttons, why don't you show him who's got the upper hand!!!!!!!!!Maybe then he'll take you seriously and understand who's really in control of the relationship. Stop letting him walk all over your feelings.
2006-11-01 14:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by lea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's not taking your relationship too seriously, but he might just be trying to make you jealous. maybe he's testing you somehow. don't take it badly right now, but if his inconsiderate behavior goes on after that you should talk to him. or give the player some of his own medicine and talk about a hot boy!!!!
2006-11-01 14:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by skigrrl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK u talk to him OK because he might be cheating on you and if you talk to him and he is ou can brake up with him and like make him pay and i have a lot of ways to make people pay like talk to her and tell her that he was cheating on her with you so she gets mad and dumbs or something like that hope i help you
2006-11-01 14:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by eayad j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him really seriously,guys dont take hints ok...We need it upfront like heres your options buddy, kind of upfront lol.Im serious hes probabley testing your limits out.if he says it in front of your face,what does he say and do behind your back.Let him know its not exceptable!!
2006-11-01 14:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Brian_26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋