Why do non-muslims say we muslims man treat their wife badly?you witness this personally?Muslim neighboor?pal?

Question

I do not understand why non-muslims say we muslims treat our wife badly. Personally I got married 4 years ago. I treat my wife like a queen. I bring her flowers every week. We go out with our children to the park to play. I help her at home with taking out the trash, buying the groceries, cleaning. I even go with her when she has to do shopping. Last night she was sick and I stayed at home to take care of her. I guess we Muslim man do not speak enough about these things so non-muslims assume we treat our wife badly. NO I DO NOT HAVE 4 Wives. I think a man with more than one must have A LOT of patience and be really fair. And I think that is very hard to (I know this will be raised) that is why I answering in advance. My wife and I love each other very much and our children and we raise them just like any normal family would. So I still do not get Why do non-muslims say we muslims man treat their wife badly?you witness this personally?are you neighboors or friends with a Muslim?

(Yes our women can vote, they can drive, they are free to do what they wish with their money and they where doing all of this before women's lib)

(I was just told that yahoo might delete my answer as many Christians where angered by t because it offends them, so I will re-posted in my blog... THANKS)

Answer 1

Salamaleikum:

Finally!!!!!!!!!!! A MUSLIM MAN SPOKE UP! MASHALLAH ABOUT TIME!!!!!!!!

Thank you! I get the same treatment from my Husband!!!! My husband is the best husband in the world!

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The rights of Muslim Women are clearly stated in the Quran: They can Vote, Be president even, I MYSELF OWN A BUSINESS... so all that other ******* people are writing is just made up and false!!!!!!!!



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(See no one spoke up about having a friend or a pal, because they really do not know... how Good we Muslimahs are treated)


ELHAMDULILLAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Any one can wear the Hijab. I am 19 years old a female obviously and just started wearing the Hijab today. I am a christian. Would I wear it inside my own christian church? No I would not. If you talk to your husband about this I think he would be very please with you and would encourage it. Afterall, it is his cutlure and half his family you are married to. Why wouldn't he want his wife supporting his culture and participating in it by wearing the Hijab? But, wearing the Hijab is also a very big decision to make. Once you make that decision you have to keep it going you can't just decide one day you're gone be a Hijabi than the next your not than that would become an insult. But with your Husband being a muslim I'm sure he would have not have an issue with it that make him even more proud for him to call you his wife. Techinaclly when you wear the Hijab out in public no one is going to assume that you're not muslim, they might actually assume that you're a full blooded muslim just because you are wearing the Hijab. But you need to also becareful of how you act in public after putting on the Hijab because when you are acting in a crazy or negitive way you are influcing the entire Hijabi community/muslim community! Good luck

Answer 3

My heart started racing and my eyes watered up when I heard this question because I am very ignorant to your religion but I just had a 3month old baby by a Muslim.I have posted many questions about how you all treat your wives and whaty are your beliefs.My baby's father is (NOI) people say that isnt a real muslim.How true again I dont know and we arent married and he's taking me through alot.I dont think your religion is bad but it gets a bad rap.People sterio type because there are infact Muslims who show that side, and they show the bad and negative instead of the good and the great.For example look @ my childs father.When representing something no matter what is you have people putting the negative out there and making it seem as if thats how it is what are we supposed to believe?.You may get mad but we cant get mad when people say things about christians becasue look at how many christians are out here putting out negative and there arent too many others like myself that want to look deeper and I will admit I only look deeper b/c I have a daughter to raise and choices to make concerning your religion.Please contact me so I may speak more in depth w/ you or your wife because I am very interested.I think your religion has a lot of good from somethings Ive been exposed to but some bad or maybe what Ive been shown isnt right.

Answer 4

First of all, I'd like to say that not all Muslims are bigots nor are all Muslims bad.

But, unfortunately, it's also true that a lot of Muslims are very well known wife beaters and have other bad traits.

It's totally unfortunate that all the Muslims get tarred by the same feather, but how we can we help this?

I know, for example, that the Surah of the Cow, very clearly lays down the rules by which a Muslim may remarry 4 times in his life, but never when the first wife is alive and is free of any disease.

I'm a Christian, but that doesn't stop me from knowing the Truth.

But then, so many "True Believers"violate the very basic tenets of Islam and mock all else.

What can you expect is these circumstances?

Peace

Answer 5

I have been cheated on and mistreated by everyman I have been with except my Muslim husband. When I came to Islam I was told all about these Muslim men and how I would be treated, blah blah blah. Well my husband is so good to me. Yeah we have our issues and have had some major fights, but all in all he is good to me. You see the thing is happy Muslim families do not make the 5 o'clock news.

Answer 6

From living in the U.S., the only knowledge of other countries is something I heard from the media; just as the countries hear about people in the U.S. Unfortunately, that means we are compelled to make generalties regarding those individuals. The link below is one about how this happened; the stories we often heard, what the media produced, which affected our thought processes about Muslims since we've never heard otherwise.

My father and brother are Muslims from the Nation of Islam. My husband is a Muslim from Morocco and he treats me with the greatest of respect and shows his love for me always. I could not be happier. As you can see, I did not take the media's information for granted, as I know it was not fully sided in which we could see the "good" in other Muslim countries; just given things like what we learned of the terrorists.

Althought we, as Americans may have been given this picture by the things we read, we cannot be faulted for the strength of that belief, having nothing else to go on. There were plenty of people from Muslim countries who immigrated to the U.S. who could have told a better story and until recently we never heard from anyone. Also there were Muslim women who were battered and abused who told their story on national television years ago. I couldn't find the link but I am sure it was a major newscasting station (CNN, etc.).

It is good to know that we were incorrect in believing that all Muslim men treat women horribly. Thank you for speaking out on that.

Answer 7

Because they are believing that to make themselves feel better about the way their women are treated. Believe me, I'd rather be a Muslim woman, and get treated like a human being, than to be some of these Christian women who get beaten up on a regular basis. Not to mention whose husbands cheat left and right, or don't even bother to marry them after having kids with them. Which is better, you tell me? They try to put Muslim women down for wearing hijab and dressing modestly because that is superior to their ways, and any time people feel someone is superior to them, they have to try to say something to insult them. As a Muslim woman, I can't say I've exactly been treated like a queen, although I've never been hit one time by my husband, and he has never cursed at me in the whole time we've been together. We've been married almost 12 years. In fact, he's treated me better than any of my Christian family members, or anyone else I've ever met.

Well, brother, if they delete your question, it looks like you've already gotten the message out there any way. Good for you. Assalamoalakum, Sis Safiyah

Btw, I am not upset if anyone hates me for being a Muslim. That is a fact I am proud of more than anything else in my life. The day I accepted Islam is the day my life began, ahlumdulillah. I love my fellow Muslims so much, and would gladly give up my own life for them. Salam.

Answer 8

I don't understand it either! I'm a muslim woman and my husband never treated me badly, in fact he is so kind to me, loves me and never treated me with humiliation or disrespect. If there r Muslims who mistreat their wives it is not because they are Muslims and if there r Christians who disrespect their wives it is not because of their religion.

Answer 9

It's definitely a matter of bad exposure...just because you see one case of a bad husband then people inmediately assume it's the norm. Personally I'm not muslim but I congratulate you for your kindness towards your family, i think that's admirable... I'm glad you posted this question because i think it's also about ignorance and people being misinformed so you have also educated some people...

Answer 10

I know muslim people, men and wives and I have never known a muslim man to treat his wife badly--in fact they were good people all around--I hate stereotypes

Answer 11

THANK YOU! I have been saying this for weeks now and non-Muslims do not like to hear it. Today I was told to watch my backside because I am marrying a Muslim man, and Muslim men like anal sex from boys and women. It makes me sick the way people think! And whey I say I am marrying a Muslim man and he treats me far better than any American man I have ever dated, people hate it. I am already treated like a princess by the man I love, and I know that will never change. Thank you again for posting this.