I've known this guy for about 4 yrs and i gave up my virginity to him las year thinking that we were gona hook up but we never did. I still talk to him but we dont do anything but he calls me and tells me he wants to see me and i know something bad will happen thats why i dont see him but i want to but it seems wrong cuz were not together. I try to be optimistic about it and think that hes the only guy i've ever been with and it wont be bad. I guess i want to get opinons if its a bad idea knowing that i still have feelings for him
2006-11-01 14:17:08 · 43 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They can and should.
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2006-11-01 14:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by jan 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
From what i can understand he has used you for sex, you slept with him thinking that you two would be together, you probably don't want to hear this but, he has used you for sex, and im assuming that the only reason he calls you is to try to and sleep with you again, you are doing the right thing by not seeing him. I think you should call and talk to him about having a relationship with him before you see him again, unless you are happy to just have a sexual relationship with him.
2006-11-01 14:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by j3zZiKa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should men be the only ones who are permitted to use women for sex? Why can't it be the other way around as well?There are times when a woman wants nothing else than to have sex with someone in the office or someone that she just meet.
2006-11-01 14:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by moonguardianluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit wasting your time, If he wanted to marry you, or hook up with you, you would have known that by now. There are alot of other guys out there that will make you a great partner, and may be ready to commit, after a short while. Life goes on. 'GO WITH IT'. Start dating and looking in the right direction. Keep him as a friend, unless he want to make a commitment shortly. Sounds like you would make a great catch for the right guy. ......................ps want my number?
2006-11-01 14:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey now its not a bad idea meeting him or nething but make sure you know what youre doing. Cuase its really important you understand the deeper meaning of sex before practicing it. Its preety kool though wid the generation nowadays but do remember that since you're not wid him now n he does not have the same feelings for u nemore he wont really respect your relation or bed times so much.
Take Care
Regards
AJ
2006-11-01 14:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its common to only feel comfortable with the person that you have sex with before, especially if it was your one and only. but your question doesnt match the description. on one hand you are asking if a girl can use a guy for sex and on the other you are shunning from him because you think you may have sex with him even though you are not together. Im not making the connection here.
2006-11-01 14:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Anyone can use anyone else for anything, sex included. The fact that you "have feelings" for him means that you wouldn't be using him for sex. If you want to date him, and all he wanted was a fling, do not lower yourself by giving in to him. Don't confuse wanting sex with wanting someone to care about you, they are two very different things. Having sex with him will not make him want to be with you. Find someone else.
2006-11-01 14:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you don't want him just for the sex, it seems like you may have some feelings for him you just don't want tot get hurt in the long run if you continue to have sex with him.
All he wants to do is have sex and you don't. You want something more than just sex. And trust me, the way you have feelings for him is not the way he has feelings for you.
I hate to sound harsh, but that seems like the reality of the situation.
2006-11-01 14:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by corey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do a lot more growing up before you have sex again anytime soon. You obviously don't understand that he used you for sex and the reason he still calls is because he wants to use you again.
2006-11-01 14:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes to your question...... Call and ask him to meet u somewhere this way the two of u are in a neutral place.... then tell him how u feel.... he will either push u away or it could trigger feelings he may not even have had......good luck
2006-11-01 14:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by truckindad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obvisouly he just wanted to get in yourpants Didn't you hear that song S.E.X tellin girls that boys will tell them all kinds of things 2 get in their pants and once it's gone ur never get it back.He just wanted to have Sex with u and u gave it 2 him so now he wants more
2006-11-01 14:20:22 · answer #11 · answered by Sapphire J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋