ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are having sex, im on birth control and all that, but i cant help but overstress every time of the month. i want to explain to him that right now in my life i cant emotionaly be having sex, but i really love this person and i dont want him to take it the wrong way. I dont understand why guys NEED to have sex in a relationship. is it wrong from me to ask this? should i expect a break up? i dont know, how do guys feel about this? i want to get a general idea of what to expect. how do u guys feel about that? any advice would be awsome...even from girls!
2006-11-01 14:13:06 · 8 answers · asked by bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they do NOT need to have sex. if he wants any he should marry you. if you're not ready to have a baby, u are NOT ready to have sex. don't ruin your life cause you think he needs to have sex. he DOESN'T. end of story.
2006-11-01 14:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by aerie anna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all sex is not a need and whoever tells you it is, is either misinformed or sadly addicted. You want to stay away from such guys... I know sometimes it doesn't look like it, but not all of us are sex animals. Personally I believe it is better to stay away from sex while dating, because that allows to better focus on the important things and you grow healthier emotionally, but if you have decided to include sex in your relationship, there is EVERY reason for you to tell him about how you feel in that special time of the month; however risky it might appear, it is worth it because with his reaction you will get to test what is he made of, and therefore how good he really is for you:
If he doesn't understand and breaks up with you or whatever, you'll know he is just a jerk, because guys "need" the sex only when that's the main reason why they are with a girl.
On the other hand, if he really cares about you, he will understand and be respectful of you. That will show you he actually thinks about you, not just about himself...
2006-11-01 22:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Hor-heh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can be a wonderful part of a relationship but it isn't the only part. I've been with my girlfriend for almost six months now and we haven't had sex yet. We just don't feel the need to rush things. As long as you communicate your thoughts and concerns to him there hopefully won't be too many problems. Still, a long term relationship isn't likely to last long without sex.
2006-11-01 22:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by d2c3p0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also extremely paranoid around that time of the month when I wait desperately for my period. I know that i am extremely careful so i know that it would be very unlikely for me to get pregnant. Sometimes i just tell my boyfriend that i'd rather not do it as often..just becuz i feel less stressed out about it. My boyfriend grunts and b*tches a little but overall hes completely understanding and we love each other and been together for 2 years now. So i can completely relate to u. But sex is good in a relationship..
But its important to know how old you are....
2006-11-01 22:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by ๑The Goddess๑ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bee: Sad to say, but be ready for him to say "adios"[good bye] to you. Remember; "why would you buy the cow when the milk is free" ? Guys in their younger years have no real clue of what love is but know what sex is ! Emotionally, you are not ready for sex ... no girl is at or around that age. Professionals believe girls are ready for a love and sex encounter at about 25 years of age ( approx.) !!! This is because the biggest sex gland in the human body of a woman is her MIND. The girl's mind at 25 years is developed fully and is ready emotionally for sex with a male !!! So; you are right when you say you are not ready emotionally !!! The younger you are, the BIGGER the RISK of losing your man. (This is why a lot of guys skip out on their pregnant girl friends !) Guys don't NEED sex in a relationship when they are young but WANT sex !!! There are a lot of girls around your age right now, who are hurting BIG time from their guy having sex with them then, dumping them !!!
2006-11-01 22:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you don't want any sex? If so, then yes you should expect a breakup. Sex is a vital part of an intimate relationship.
2006-11-01 22:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by sdh0407 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is important...guys can't live without sex...nor can women but they aren't too keen on admiting it.
2006-11-01 22:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he truly loves you, then he will understand
2006-11-01 22:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Flame Alchemist 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋