i need an advice pls helppppppppppppppp! my bf cheated me. he said sorry abt what he did and said we can start all over again but u know its not so easy to forget. i reli love him so much. he said its up to me if i can still accept him and forget everything. he said that he realized alrdy what he did to me and he said he love me so much. wat do u wnt me to do?
2006-11-01 13:53:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen dear, when a man really loves, he sees no woman on earth but the one he loves, and as cheat happened, then love is poisoned, and its up to you to have him as casual, or tell him what i have just told you and see what he answers, or calmly leave him.
2006-11-01 14:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mido Elmasry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with him? Did he say why he cheated on you? How long was he cheating before you found out? Did he confess to you, or did you catch him? Is this the first time he's cheated on you? Do you know if he's ever cheated on another girlfriend?
If you hope to work through this with him, you need to answer these questions honestly.
You may never trust him again, nor would he trust you if you cheated on him. So, be prepared to always wonder what he's up to.
Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. If you want that, then you have a long way to go to get there in light of what he's done.
Only you can decide what to do. But, I would ask myself if I thought I could put up with someone who is a liar and cheat. Because while he was cheating on you, he was lying too. I guess it all depends on how important you think honesty is.
2006-11-01 14:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by gailfrances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it isn't a hard and fast rule, but once a cheater, always a cheater comes to mind. He had to cheat to realize how much you mean to him? Very suspicious. Keep in mind he will tell you anything for this to be okay and if you go back, how are you going to feel when you don't know exactly where he is on a Friday night, of if he doesn't call when he said he would.
I would tell him you need some time apart and really think about what life will be like with a cheater. I personally think you should move on.
2006-11-01 13:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that once the trust has been broken in a relationship there is nothing left. For as hard as it is..... even though u love him, you should let him go. you'll always have it in the back of ur mind and besides if u take him back and he does it again, do u really want to go thru this pain again???
Good Luck - just be strong and do whats best 4 u - not him.
2006-11-01 13:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl believe me he is sorry. hes a sorry man. dont put up with that. he doesnt love you. never trust him again. i could never go back to him if i was you. plz for your own sake dont do it. if for any chance you do always remember me and what i said. he is no good. and will lie and cheat on you again. i bet he wasnt thinking about you at all when he ws in the act. sorry but you need to drop him right now as we speak.
2006-11-01 13:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Move on - there is nothing to gain from sticking with him right now. If things are meant to be, you'll be together again after he has matured and changed. But that kind of change takes a lot of time - years.
2006-11-01 13:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That completely depends on you. How much do you love him? Do you think you can trust him not to do it again? If you say you forgive are you really able to forget? All very hard questions to answer, but until you really ask yourself and be true to yourself with your answers you will be torn
2006-11-01 13:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by blackcatmingus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistakes happen and if and only if he is truly sorry, try and see if you can work things out.
But if you can't then move on because the truth is once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-11-01 13:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus tell him this:
you 2 need to take a break, not communicate to each other or anything for a month
that will show you how much u really care for each other
if he really loves you he will do it for you
jus give him a taste of what it would be like if he had lost you
good luck
2006-11-01 13:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha please you should have your limits and one of them should be cheating i dont know if you understand but this happend to me and well yeah he said the same thing he said that he loves me so much tat he would even marry me right now if he could but guess wat i took him back and yeah he did it againg after he said sorry he wouldnt do it again so in my opinion i think all guys are the same if you dont know your own guy and the things he does when your not wit him!!!!!
2006-11-01 13:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by 12934 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋