how do you say goodbye to your father when he is dying?

Answer 1

say 'bye dad'

Answer 2

You never say "Goodbye", you say that you and he will always be together. Here and forever in your memory. I was at work when my father died and only found out by the police leaving a message with the people who owned the shop under our flat. His coffin was sealed within an hour of his death, so I did not even have the chance to say "goodbye",but in my heart and prayers, (I am NOT a religious person), that is what I said and am sure is what he would have wanted to hear.

Answer 3

That really depends on the relationship that you have and how much time he has left.

If it's quite a bit then do things with him to show how you feel. I don't mean sappy stuff cos the man knows whats going on. Try watching a game with him or if he can do it play cards or whatever he wants.

If he's much closer get his favourite book and read to him, sit and talk to him about when he was the age you are now, let him relive the best parts of his life, tell him about yours and what you have done, plan to do, want to do.

When it's that time of his life to let go take his hand and sit with him as he crosses over and let him know that he will always be a part of your life in thought and prayer.

If you are a faithfilled person tell him what you invision heaven to be.

The closet I got to this was when my Uncel was dying. I took care of him through it and when he died I was the one that was there for him. We talked about when he wanted to buy that bar, when he went to war, why he never learned to drive, politics, lol! and he had a peaceful death.

I still fell apart because he was a great and wonderful man, unappreciated in many ways but he knew that he was loved in the end.

Answer 4

This is one of the hardest things in life. I lost my Father 8 years ago when I was in Highschool. He was battling a long illness and when I arived at the hospital that day the nurses confronted me and let me know that they thought he wouldnt make it through the night. I felt so sick and had been preparing for that moment over the last two years. A step back - My close pal lost her Dad, she had no time to prepare or say goodbye, I learned allot from this experience. I asked her what she missed most and what she had forgotten with time, and I made a point of learning and remembering all of these things about my father.

In the few months leading to his death... I took time to watch him breathe, stare at the color of his eyes, study everything I could, I wanted to soak up as much as I could of him.

I kept a journal where I could write thoughts and stories down to remember.

I took allot of pictures and as much video as I could without him feeling like it was a goodbye.

The last day of his life.... I never let go of his hand.. If I had too I would ask someone from the family or a nearby friend to hold it, I never wanted him to feel he was alone in the room.

My Goodbye to him was reassuring him I LOVE YOU over and over. I asked him to watch over me, thats all I could mutter out, it was much harder than I thought because even though we all new he was dying I dont think the person dying ever thinks that will be there last 5 mins on the earth so I didnt want to upset him with something so final I just wanted him to know he was surrounded by love.

Answer 5

When my father was dying I never actually said goodbye, I just made sure I was there for him, loved and adored him and will never forget him. I believe I will see him again some day so maybe that belief helped me. I don't think it ever seems real until it has actually happened so I think saying goodbye is an almost impossible thing to do.

My heart goes out to you
xxx

Answer 6

You don't say goodbye to him keep that inside of yourself. Just tell him how good a dad he has been and remember with him some of the good times you had together. Tell him that maybe when you were younger he didn't let you do things and now you are older you understand all those reasons and make a joke of it.
But most of all don't let him die without knowing that he was a good dad and that you love him. Celebrate his life and not his death.

Answer 7

Aww I'm Sorry. Well all i know is life is beautiful, there are so many faiths in this life, so much to look forawrd too. Your dad-..he got to live with you, and have a kid, or more, and just live life- Just spend the days wisely,and let him know you love him more than anything- everyone has to go,wheather its for a reason or not, but the most important thing is to remember that the memories are stil there, and we dont ahve to remember times that were bad. He'll always be in your heart and i think we all have to believe in that when someone passes away-its the only way to move on. So just smile,make his life worth while one last time, and no need to make it tradgeic, just make sure you show him attention,and spend each day with him-becuase not a day more will you have.
Goodluck,and i'm sorry! =] =[!

Answer 8

In your heart there will never be a goodbye hun,,it will always be,,,see you around.I stayed with my mom the last 2 weeks she was alive in the hospital,,never went home only to shower twice.I could not tell her goodbye or even see it that way.All I could do was to hold her in my arms,,and lay my head on her chest as she passed and took her last breath.I knew if I spent her last few days by her side it would never be goodbye,,and she would know,,just by me being there with her.

Answer 9

I feel so blessed that I had the chance for that last chat with my dad, still leaves me wishing I could speak to him and finding things I wished I had said....go with your feelings, your instinct....I approached it by thanking my dad for being such a fantastic dad, he smiled and said he had done his best and we went from there. It wasn;t a long winded drawn out affair, just said what needed to be said and that was that, the next day, he passed away while I was with him....its devastaing but I am thankful we talked....there is no easy way to say goodbye to someone who has shaped and moulded your life and has been there all your life, I thought dad would be there forever, you know. My thoughts are with and your family at this sad time....my heart goes out to you. xx

Answer 10

I havent fully read all the answers but i do agree with Brinlarr that you shouldnt wait. I had planned to say lots of things to my dad when it was my turn to look after him on the Monday. Unfortunately, he died on the Saturday night. However, i had sat with him on the Friday and just held his hand. Please dont wait - just say how you feel from the heart.

Even if you know someone is dying, it is still a terrible blow when they actually do die - God bless, comfort and strengthen you at this difficult time.

Answer 11

Tell him all the things that you always wanted to say but never did, how much you love him, how proud you are that he's your dad, and most of all be very grateful that you actually have the chance to say goodbye. God Bless.....