(cont..) and my parents are very broad-minded. Basically, i have a feeling that we will have problems adjusting to each other's family due to different cultures and community. His parents are also pressurizing him to return back to india. He has elder brother who also thinks the same way and so my boyfriend who is very attached to his family feels guilty for staying away from his family and he keeps talking about going back to india after we get married. He gets carried away with family ties and emotions. I dont mind going back to India but I only dread his parents interference in our married life like a typical indian family and i dont think i can tolerate that. I like this guy but iam not sure if our families will be happy with our decision to get married. I love my parents a lot and i dont want them to be unhappy later. Will i be happy with him or will his parents intereference create trouble in our life ? Should I marry him..or should i marry a guy from my community and caste?
2006-11-01 13:49:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Different cultures make it difficult for people to stay married. Before you marry your bf, visit India with him and observe the customs of how women are treated in the households and their roles in domestic life. Be objective. You may or may not like what you see, but at least you will be aware of the differences.
2006-11-01 13:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't have a 'caste' system here, but then...I don't know where you're from. Are you Indian also? I know I wouldn't want to move to India, away from my family...with ONLY his family's influence. You'll be the odd ball and in my experience, if they can manipulate him NOW...imagine how it will be if they have you thousands of miles from your entire support system.
2006-11-01 21:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mean to each other & both of you are in the right ages,you marry him...but if you are under ages no...need your parents advice..
Different community its not a hindrance as long as you love each other....
2006-11-01 21:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Honeyisle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes that can be a problem but if you really love each other you will adapt to the differences and not really care how different u guys are
2006-11-01 21:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by brattyfirefaerie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any of you think to stick to your families after marriage....Surprise....you are not ready for marriage.
"A man shall leave his parents and is united to his wife...."
That is what God says.
So both of you "leave" your families.
Your life is yours only not your family's nor his.
2006-11-01 21:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry your boyfriend
2006-11-01 21:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by roman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋