i love my husband very very much, but i miss my parents immensly.?

Question

i'm 24, and i almost want to move back home while i go to school... we live on opposite ends of the country, because i hate my hometown. my parents will not move to where i am, so that is out of the question. i call my mom about 5 times a day, i miss them so much! and i've been gone for 5 years! anyone else my age going through this? how do you squelch the feeling? i know i'm a grown adult and i need to live my life and just visit my family when i can, but i cant shake this feeling of wanting to move back home.

my parents have said they want me to move back home. without me ever mentioning any of this to them. i feel badly for them mostly, because my mom is going through empty nest syndrome still. and for the comment below, no there are no marital problems.

and i can't just move back. my husband is in the military, and an assignment to where my parents live is virtually impossible.

Answer 1

Sweetie, I am no longer 24, but let me give you some sage advice because I do understand.

Family is precious and can never be replaced. Ask your husband to consider moving back home or at least closer. Yes, you made a life with your husband but if you need your mom, by all means find a way to be in her life and have her in yours.

My mom died when I was 15, I'd love to have her here. One of my daughters has been married 6 years but lives closeby and calls me - somedays 5 times. She says, am I bothering you, and I always tell her that she can never bother me. She can call me anytime of the day or night.

You may need to live closer and perhaps your husband would be open to it. If not, then by all means go and visit, hold your mom tight tight tight (as my granddaughter says).

Answer 2

Sweety I was born and raised in Ethiopia.at 17 I left my hometown to go to school which was about 500-600kms away.
I happen to see them only during summer break and christmas break.After undergrad school I cam to Texas at the age of 22, and I haven't seen them for 3 years I am now 25. Guess what I am the only child. I only talk to them once a week.
I try to focus on school and my future.
Well you are married , I am single I am not even dating, and I am surviving here. Don't you think it is high time for you to be a woman?,nothing offensive but you need to be a woman.

Answer 3

i know what it's like to hate your hometown b/c i hate mine too! but i dont want to go back because my hometown is so suffocating - everyone knows everyone's business, and everyone's so small-towny. i think it's just a matter of finding a different town to live in and realizing that you have it so much better in this new city! i miss my parents sometimes too (they live an hour and a half away from me), but they're close enough so that they can come visit me or i can visit them.

is there a way to move back home to a different city that's near your hometown? or could you at least move to within a few hours' drive from your parents?

Answer 4

How does this sound: I left my husband, because I missed my parents so much.
It seems to me that your parents didn't do a good job in making you an independent person.... someone who can be his/ her own person away from Mom and Dad. I hope you are not whining to your husband about this five times a day, too. Poor man.
I live far away from my Mom ( I flew back with my family when my Dad passed away)... I miss my old life a lot,
but the past is the past- ... you too have your own
life now. It's time to establish your own home, so you can give your kids what your parents have given you- a place they can call
home.

Answer 5

Dear, sweetheart...I gotta break this to you as gently as I can. Your parents are very likely enjoying having some time alone together after many years of rearing you. And part of their hard work raising you was to see you go off into life and make a good place for yourself and raise your own family. So stop being selfish and needy...its natural to miss them, but I would think you are obsessed with them from what you just wrote. If you are having trouble in your marriage, just admit it...but dont try being a "baby" again...its wrong.

Answer 6

It is a normal feeling that you are going through. What is it that your husband is doing in order to get you over this situation? It is important that he helps through this. In the mean time start thinking about him and where you are. Start enjoying the benefits of where you are, I am unable to point out the benefits but am sure you know what they are? Do keep in touch with your family but also start occuping your time with other things around your city,town etc....Hope that helps?

Answer 7

Visit your parents twice a year but your married not u should live without your parents

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Visit your parents you don't need to be away from them that long.