how do you approach a tough macho guy about emtions?

Question

he's not just any guy, he's my boyfriend. we have a 3 hour distant relationship. he's one of those tough guys that don't like to be around people when they cry ( he walked out of the room a couple times when i cried..) and does not talk about how he feels about me. i know we shouldn't have to ask..we should just know right? that's what my friends say.we've been going out for 9 months now.. but for the last 4 months we saw each other less because i had to move away for school.he is also in the military and will be transferred somewhere else in about 7 months.i'm growing to love him more and more..and i do not know how to approach him about it. i really want to talk to him about our future and if he can see us going anywhere and he replies with "i'm not a psychic".true.i just dont know if i should step away from this before it gets really hard later.i want to talk to him, but his responses arent really helpful.i told him awhile back"you know i love you rught?" and he said "gimme somtime"

i'm nervous to ask him about his feelings about me. im scared of an answer like " i dont know.." "you know i'm not good with stuff like this..."

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to ask you should just know??? Hell no, that is not how it works. My boyfriend is also in the military, and is kind of "tough". He does not like to talk about problems, but I'll be da.m.ned if I'm going to let him get away with that shi*. Communication is KEY in relationships. You have to talk about things. You shouldn't have to ask about someone's feelings for you because THEY SHOULD ALREADY BE TELLING YOU, and showing you. If they don't tell you how they feel, of course you are going to ask. You need to be shown AND told how he feels, and of course you should do the same back.

You've been together for 9 months, and he isn't sure if he loves you? If he doesn't love you by the time a year has gone by, I'd get rid of him.

Answer 2

Some guys don't do emotion because they were raised not to, feel it is a weakness, or are too insecure in their masculinity so they overact the macho role. He may in time evolve and decide to open up, but don't try to force him. It is obvious that you are both young and have more emotional growing to do. If you two really love each other, you need to take each other as you are.