Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years and he has just stopped being romantci all together. I dont understand it. The first couple of months I never had to open a single door or worry about being cold or paying for anything so what happened? Is it because he has become comfortable in the realtionship and he feels that stuff isnt neccesary because he has "won me over"? Will I ever see the old him again? Guys help me whats up with this behavior?
2006-11-01 13:19:08 · 10 answers · asked by georgiabelle87 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a typical relationship to me. The "honeymoon" stage never lasts forever, yet most women unrealistically expect or hope it to.
Wait untill you're married!
Seriously, this is normal, and in one way you should take heart that he feels comfortable enough around you, and secure enough in your relationship, that he doesn't feel the need to flatter you anymore.
Just drop a few hints now and then, let him know that you still enjoy a bit of romance, and suggest cosy picnics for two, movie dates, and romantic nights in by the fire, just to give him a few clues. It will also definitely help keep those romantic fires burning!!!!
Most men need a bit of reminding now and then, yours sounds no different.
Good luck.
2006-11-01 13:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Is it because he has become comfortable in the realtionship and he feels that stuff isnt neccesary because he has "won me over"?"
Yes. This is exactly it.
We latinos have a saying "la costumbre es mala". Or, "getting comfortable is bad". Sometimes you need to jerk the love chain every so often so he'll stay on his toes. Some women know how to do this well, others don't. The best use I've seen is the infamous "ignore" tactic. Or "not caring" about him or what he's doing any more and starting hanging out with new or guy friends.
This tends to get his attention quickly.
So go jerk the chain in a way that won't send him into a psycho rage.
2006-11-02 00:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to offer him more love instead of being cold and not worrying about paying.Realize that relationships are two way its not oneway traffic if aperson is nice to you and you dont care about them they lose interest in you because there are so many good people in this world that one can find others.Thats why you need to work on a relationship to make it successful.It requires honesty dedication committment and sacrifice the meaning of which most of us have forgotten in this day and age.Watch The Movie Jerry Mcguire and it will make many things clear to you about the value of honesty and committment.Hope it helps.
2006-11-02 01:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing to go in a realtionship is the sex life, so if your haveing sex at least once each time you see him then things will get batter, if the sex has dropped off, then he is looking for a girl who can satisfy him as a man and no wonder he has lost interest in you
2006-11-01 21:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are seeing the old him. he was just trying to impress you. He feels secure, you will start to get to know him like his friends do. he changed because he thought it is what you wanted, to seem different, he is tired of playing that part. he wants to be him. dont let it cause problems, if you care for him, or yourself
2006-11-01 21:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dajmta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the honeymoon stage. It's over unless you insist he treat you differently.
2006-11-01 21:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think he just got over the whole courtship thing. but that doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or anything, it just says that he's perfectly comfortable being with you.
2006-11-01 21:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by 0205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you won't but why don't you ask him about it? If you have a good relationship, you should be able to talk about anything.
2006-11-01 21:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless he drinks the piss of a syameze rat (only in london, england and central africa) he will need to consume 25 ml of it, and he will be romantic. Or u can suck his dick
2006-11-01 21:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Silly Big Man 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my husband did the same thing... i know it sucks
2006-11-01 21:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋