A few months ago at the beach I saw my 15 year old neice playing beach volleyball topless. I recgonized several af the other girls that are her friends topless also. the beach is topless friendly. I did not let her see me. I have not told my sister what I saw. Should I tell her, or act like I didn't see it?Please give me your opinion.
2006-11-01 13:12:49 · 24 answers · asked by bralesskelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep it quiet. If the girl ever found out that her uncle saw her like that, she would be so embarrassed that it would ruin your relationship for the rest of your days.
2006-11-02 14:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I think you should have talked to your niece when you saw her topless. Especially if she's only 15. She is still a minor and needs guidance from mature adults. Theres too many pervert lurking around in this day and time. Terrible things could happen to your niece in behaving in this kind of manner. You didn't state whether or not you were topless. But just in case you were, you have to set an example for your niece. You have to live a life in front of her that becomes an intelligent respectful aunt. Disregard this answer if you were not topless please. Also I think that her mother needs to know what she's doing. I'm a mother also and whatever my daughters do thats disrespectful I definitely want to know. Maybe her mother can talk with her to see what is the problem the reason she's behaving this way. I hope this advice helps.
2006-11-01 15:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mention anything, and be glad that your neice is comfortable enough to enjoy being topless with friends in an appropriate place and situation.
There's nothing wrong with being topless or nude at a clothing optional beach where such behavior is acceptable, so there's no need to "report" your neice's behavior and possibly start a big deal within the family. I spend many summer days at the nude beach near my home, and believe me it's the best way to enjoy the beach on a warm summer day. Nudity or toplessness in appropriate places is no reason for anyone to be upset.
Good for her!
2006-11-02 07:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by nudie chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have talked to your neice (after the day, not at the beach in front of her friends). Telling on her would only make her resentful of you. Discuss the issue with her and you might find she has a sensible point of view. Or maybe it was a one off dare and she will never do it again, and telling her mum creates a big fuss about nothing. At the very least it will build trust between you and her, and that's a good thing.
It's great that she is confident enough to go topless. I am 16yo girl and lots of my friends have hang ups about their body. I have been swimming topless in my pool for about 2 years and I luv it. I talked to Mum & Dad about it and we agreed on when it was appropriate for me to go topless and when it was not.
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2006-11-01 15:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to her because you might embarass her. Keep in mind she was at a topless friendly beach so it wasn't like she was the only one on the beach topless!
2006-11-01 13:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by jazminda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your sister only because if my sister saw my daughter topless at the beach, I would want her to tell me. Maybe she can correct the behavior before it is taken too far. In my opinion, going topless is okay-----when you're an adult. She is still a child and her parents are still responsible for her. I would definately tell. Her mom would probably want to know.
2006-11-01 13:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all be sure not to tell anyone else, but talk to her she may get mad but don't keep that too yourself. Especially if she does find out you saw her she would be even more furious. If she was just playing around I don't see the harm, but if there were guys around and she was revealing herself then that is somewhat making her look slutty, not that she is I don't know her. But she probally doesn't know about that kind of thing so you need to talk to her. I am only a year older then her but I still wouldn't do that (especially since I have a boyfriend) but what is the point [ha] I see you boobs!
2006-11-01 13:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Delilah_Valentine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell. I mean she's only 15. What if some perv seen her and followed her home one day and raped her on the way? At 15 she shouldn't be showing her goodies to anybody who'll watch she needs to be stopped or the next thing to happen will she'll have a baby under each arm by the time she's 17.
2006-11-01 13:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have a talk with your neice one on one. Only involve her Mom if she is not understanding of your concerns and dismissive. You were once that age, so just talk to her with a little understanding.
Good Luck.
That teenage transition thing is never easy.
2006-11-01 13:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Monie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up !!
So she was topless, what is the big deal. It's a mammory gland up until someone makes it a sexual object !
If she has a healthy attitude about her body, good for her. Why mess things up by giving her a hang up or making her feel guilty ?
2006-11-01 13:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋