Do you have deadbeat siblings and what do you do?

Question

My sister has a child with a pedophile drug using loser. Neither of them work, my mom and other siblings buy them stuff. They were recently hit by a car while riding their bikes, no one was hurt, it was not a bad kind of thing. They stayed with my mom and ate all her food and drank like 4 CASES of soda pop. They somehow made it on the new and now lots of people are just giving them a ton of stuff. My mom asked them to give her a bag of the donated groceries and to use part of their $200 gift card to replace the pop they drank and they refused. I think my sister is a greedy little pond sucker and I so want to call the tv station and tell them the real story.....any opinions????

in case you want to read her sob story....
http://www.kstp.com/article/stories/S19711.html

they don't have jobs cause they are too lazy to get off their butts and get some!!!

Answer 1

In my experience, people who use people and things will eventually get what's coming to them. It sounds like they are deeply dependent upon everyone. It also sounds like your sister has not really grown up yet. I would talk to your parents and your friends, and possibly friends of hers and see if you can't get them to join your bandwagon. If people stop giving them everything, they will have to fend for themselves. She needs to learn that her actions have responsiblities, too. If everyone gives her everything that she ever needs, she will never learn the responsibilities of being an adult-and she will also teach her kids to do the same thing. It's a vicious cycle. Definately talk to your family and friends about this. Ask them not to give her a 'helping hand' anymore. That definately makes a person grow up fast. As for the pedophile drug using loser, there's nothing much you can do with him. Just accept that he's a loser. If you're not comfortable being around him, then don't be around him. That's what I would do. Maybe if your family does the same, they will take the hint. Sometimes lessons in life are hard, but if you are given everything that you have, you never learn how to deal with life's hard times on your own. Good luck to you, hun.

Answer 2

They sound like free loaders to me. If they ate all of your mom's food then they should be willing to replace some of it. However it doesn't seem like they are going to so you mom may have to suck these one up and learn not to help them again. Considering the fact that your niece may suffer more if you do this I probably wouldn't but that's up to you. Karma is a motherf*cker and what goes around definitely comes around. I do however sympathize with you. I have a half sister who is on welfare, has been to prison, has 2 children by 2 different men. One of which is a known drug dealer. When she was incarcerated, I took care of her children, help her grandmother pay her rent, visited her when no one else would and bought my nephews entire school wardrobe for the first day of school and when she got out she told people that I never did anything for her and that I was selfish because I would not give her any money to "help" pay her bills that were over due before she went to prison.

Answer 3

Do it!!! I have a sister much like yours and I wish with all my might that she would get a big slap of reality every day that I spend working my butt off. People like that should wake up and become adults. Like the rest of us hardworking individuals!! I would lmao if I saw a story like that on the news, because I would finally feel like all my hard work was worth something. A person, in my opinion, has no character until they have learned what it is really like to fend for themselves. Those pond suckers need to stop whining and pay their own way in life!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Hun,I am so sorry to hear this,,but there are family members out there that have a tendency to take their moms and dads for granted,,unfortunately.Your mom did the right thing by taking them in.And as to your sister,,,well she will see that over time your mom will not be so helpful as one day your mom will put her foot down when she has had enough.It is very hard to be the one watching your siblings take advantage of your parents in a way that is so selfish hun,,,but be patient,,,your mom will see through it all I am sure.

Answer 5

Theres at least one in every family, you are not alone. No, dont call the television station, your family problems are just what they are family problems, dont broadcast them to the world. You guys should just have a family meeting or something, which may or may not work. Just hang in there, eventually your sister will be there to help you through some of your troubled times, trust me..............My sister has helped me so much emotionally this last year despite the fact that she herself is a sucubus....

Answer 6

Then maybe your family should try showing them some tough love. Offer to shelter the kids but let them know that they have to go. No one should have to take care of grown folks. Tough love, sweetie...Pass it on!