My ex and me have an apartment together she moved out two months ago. Lately she has been coming over to the apartment and using my computer, checking the mail b/c she still has her mail coming there. She now lives with her new girlfriend near by she will not give the location but it is close to where we use to live. I am thinking about changing the locks and putting a password on my computer is that the right thing to do?
2006-11-01 12:57:55 · 15 answers · asked by aquamarine003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...u have to think are you just trying to stick it to her cuz she no longer is with you? OR do you feel violated when it comes to your privacy? I"ve had an ex now 4 3 yrs almost, and I mean we still see eachother like we are still together. Though he is seeing another girl...which has pissed me off royally and just the other nite I gave him the boot, that love is still there. It's like this...usually if your an Ex it's over right?? Constant contact isn't OVER..that is still very much active. If ya want her to get some gone....then say somethin. Then if she objects then changing the lock mite be tha thing to do ya dig?!
2006-11-01 13:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by German_Chocolate20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should change the locks for sure. First thing I did when my ex and I broke up. I would not trust her. I am all for the "nice " break ups but believe me, it can come back and bite you in the butt. It has been 2 months, she has gotten on with the rest of her life, maybe it is time for her to change her email address!?! You may also want to ask yourself if there is something deeper going on here. Does she still have feelings for you? Is that why she is coming around? and what is with moving in with her new girlfriend, not far away from you. Could she be hoping to keep you on the back burner if this new relationship does not work out? Sorry if I sound bitter, I have been living this for the last 6 months and I finally got up enough guts to say enough is enough. I just don't want you or any other person taken advantage of like I was by my ex.
Good Luck!
2006-11-01 21:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by blackcatmingus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, did you try just telling her not to come over anymore?
It sounds like an excuse for her to come over to see you. She still has feelings for you. She hasn't gotten her mail changed to her new address by now, she wants to use that as an excuse to come over. She might also miss what previously was "Home".
If you really don't want to be with her anymore, and if you don't want her coming over anymore than you need to talk to her.
But if you continue to let her come over all the time to check on things, then that is just feeding into the situation.
Don't go changing the locks just yet, but let her know what she is doing isn't ok. If you talk to her and it contiues to happen then you might want to just change your locks. But don't bother changing your computer password.
2006-11-01 21:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by venomfrogg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. If she doesn't live there any longer, she needs to have her mailing address changed to where she DOES live. The library has computers she can use to check her email and to do whatever else she does on a computer. There's no reason she should be 'using' your home for anything anymore. Why should you let her have free reign in your home, when she doesn't trust you enough to tell you where she lives?
2006-11-01 21:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get rid of her than yes. It would help if you had put whether this was one of those huge breakups where you end up hating the other person, or just a sort of not working out one. I'd say help her get her mailing address changed and then, if you feel she's still hanging around to much, lock her out.
2006-11-01 21:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you a man or woman I went to account and it says you are a woman then you was talking about your x boy friend a while back,whats up trying to play us or what.If this is all true it would be fine to take your lock out and having them re keyed or buy new locks but re keying is cheaper put a password on your computer.
2006-11-01 21:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want her over there it's certainly the right thing to do to change the locks but first I'd tell her you don't want her over there so that at least she has been told of that and being upfront about things such as this is always the best way to do things. Good luck.
2006-11-01 21:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-01 20:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by TexasRed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she can always check her e-mail from another computer, and because you no longer value each others trust, change those locks.
2006-11-01 21:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes . its the right thing to do. she should give you the opportunity to move on as she has. tell her to forward her mail to a PO box.
2006-11-01 21:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by t m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋