How would you go about telling someone that you are a cutter?

Answer 1

If this is referring to you, then I'm so sorry that you had to resort to something like this. Go to a responsible adult who you trust. Talk to them about your problems and listen to what they have to say as advice. I will pray that you or this person that you may know gets the help you or they need and gets through this difficult time. God bless and good luck!

Answer 2

Cutting behavior is not really uncommon. Many therapists or counselors can help cutters. You don't say how old you are. If you're young and get along with your parents, you could start there. Otherwise, a family doctor or a health practitioner at school can help you. They won't be "shocked", because they know that cutting isn't because you're bad or something; it's just a thing that some people do and many can't control.

If you're cutting, you should get professional help. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

my ex was a cutter. Just tell that person, don't wait for them to find out!! It is a scary thing, but better to let someone know than to let them find out on their own, and they will

Answer 4

it depends on who it is ur telling. the only way u can go about telling someone that u are a cutter is to sit down somewhere comfortable and tell them that u have something important to share with them and let them kno why ur telling them. and ask them not to judge you or freak out....let them kno that ur trust them enough to tell them something as serious as that. and just come out and tell them and wait for a reaction. theres no saying how theyre going to react so be prepared for nething. i hope u get through ur problem and i hope things get better for u.

Answer 5

"I Believe That I Am A Cutter?"

I believe that I am a cutter. When I get mad I like to cut and I cant stop. I've even thought that if I wasn't alive that everyone else would be better off. Not only are my teachers always on me, my parents are too. I dont know how to handle the cutting nor the pain of not being able to tell anyone my secret. I feel that there is no place for me on this earth and i often feel alone. I find myself cutting a lot and the more I do it that the more it becomes addicting. Maybe you can help me. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

age - 14 yrs old
USA

Answers ~


Hey J. Self-injury is a very serious thing to do to yourself. You must be going through a lot of pain to want to do this. Cutting is generally a way to release that pain so you don't have to deal with it anymore. I know you probably feel like you're all alone in this, but you're not. Your parents and friends love you and are in this with you too. But the only way they can help you is if you tell them about it. Telling your parents can be really hard but there's a lot of ways that you can do it. You can phone them and tell them over the phone, you can email them, you can leave a note, or you can tell them in person. Or you can tell your school nurse or doctor, and leave it to them to tell your parents. But either way, you have to tell them in order to get help. After you tell them, they'll probably bring you to a doctor, and you can tell the doctor everything that you just told me. Then you'll either be put on some medication to make you feel better, you'll go to a therapist to talk about it, or both.

Hope this helps! Amanda R.


J - When we are alone, either physically or mentally, this can cause all sorts of issues. In your case, the feeling of loneliness seems to have driven you to cut and harm yourself. However, I'm really proud of you for seeing that this is a problem, and taking the first step in getting help.

Hun, simply put, you need to bring other people into your life and into the situation. Lean on the resources you have... they'll help you stand back up again and be the strong person that I know you are. Try talking to your parents... let them know what's going on. I know it sounds like a scary thought to talk to them about a problem that's very close to your heart, but if you let it out, I promise it'll be worth it in the end. They'll do what they can to help you, all you have to do is take the help. It may get frustrating at times, but have faith that the people around you are there to help you and are going to do what they can... and you'll make it through.

If you're not comfortable talking to your parents, talk to someone at school - a guidance counsellor, teacher, administrator, anyone who you feel comfortable with. Provided that it's a responsible adult with some sort of authority, they have the potential to be a great resource for you to turn to. Be strong... I know you can do it.

Lots of love, Eveline


J, Cutting can be very addicting once you start. You constantly feel a relief from your emotions when you do it, and you want to keep getting that feeling. Cutting, however, is very destructive to your self-worth and outlook on life. You can't keep cutting forever to escape your problems. Eventually, you will have to face them. Thus, cutting teaches you to run away from your problems, and that won't last. Cutting creates new problems in the long run.

You said you are thinking of suicide - I want you to really consider some things. As far as your teachers, I'm sorry if you feel you are being treated unfairly. However, that doesn't mean they don't care. It seems like they are on your case while you are in school because they are mean, but in reality they want you to succeed. I have a couple teachers I still keep in touch with and that was their motive. They have to be on the students to complete things because most teenagers aren't motivated to do school work.

Your parents might also seem like they are constantly on your case about things. I can guarantee that ALL of your friends/peers are going through this. You aren't alone. Most teenagers feel their parents are annoying and bothering them. However, your parents do love you. Otherwise, why would they care if you did the right things? They wouldn't say a word if they didn't care. It's normal to have a communication block with your parents as a teenager. No matter what they do/say, they love you and would suffer unspeakable hurt if you killed yourself. There isn't a doubt in my mind about that.

You're experiencing normal teenaged problems, but wanting to kill yourself or cut yourself over them isn't normal. You need help - think of it this way - you can't go on suffering in silence. Like you said, it hurts to keep this secret. The people who care about you are there to help - that includes your parents and teachers.

Here is a list toll free suicide hotlines that you could call.
http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html
It helps to have another voice out there listening to you. Reaching out for help is the key here. Talk to an adult you trust and call this hotline. If you take these first steps I think things can become much better.

Amanda

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Answer 6

i used to do it. never told no one til now im 23 n that was at 13. but yes is good to talk someone about it...

Answer 7

if u dont wanna tell them just put your wrists somewhere they will see them and act like "oops! didnt mean for you to see that!" when they mention it

Answer 8

tell them you have a problem with hurting yourself i cant remember how i did

Answer 9

just be like..
*cough**Cough* im a cutter *cough*

Answer 10

Could you please expand - what is a cutter??