Should black brothers feel obligated to date their own race?

Question

like most of us, we prefer lighter skinned women, one that most people are aware of is the black guy whtie girl, but it seems as though black girls will make us feel like we are the bad guys, i get statements like "you are denying your own race" orr that we are selling ourselfs out. What do you feel about this? Can you relate to my situation? If everyone liked the same type of girls, this would be a sad world so?

I dont just date white chicks, i like asian girls alot more than whites.

Answer 1

Most men don't prefer light skinned women. Just speak for yourself. Men of all races fall in love when they go to Jamaica or Africa.

But keep in mind, if you think that men prefer light skinned women, then why is it that dark-skinned Black men approach women and then act 'surprised' when they get turned down. Wouldn't it be equally true that women prefer normal skinned men? Why are women expected to like the navy blue brothers when most prefer their darkest to be Johnny Depp or Tom Cruise.

Answer 2

I think that we should focus more on having the most possible in common. If you only share one, two or three things in common, then your relationship can be somewhat limited. My suggestion is to have your strongest "bonding" in the area of your Spiritual Life, in that, you attend the same type Church. It is important that you have a strong foundation in a common faith, that it be the roots of your emotional bonding. The second thing can be a shared hobby such as roller blading, sports, art, travel. And be also agreed when it comes to children. Don't lightly go over this. Don't waite until after a few months or years of marriage to say to your mate about what you really feel about children. That needs to be clearly laid out and understood from day one. And when it comes to the finances! Oh boy! More marriages fail because of the stresses from not budgeting, job losses, corporate moves, gambling debts, credit card debts, just not being good money managers of who does what.

If you want the odds in your favor, then seek someone with whom you have the most in common that you find not only physically attractive, but spiritually and personally as well. Be best friends first and really learn to love the things that the other person loves.

If you put God first, all else will follow.

Answer 3

No you shouldn't be obligated to date your own race if you don't want to. I understand and relate to you I'm puerto rican and yes i've dated my own race and think puerto rican guys are attracted but i'm also attracted to black and jamaican guys. I dated a black guy before and we were together for awhile and i was always being judged because of that and puerto rican guys would always be like i can treat you better and all this other shyt. I mean no one should make you feel that you have to date your own race because it's your life and your decision and they're not the ones who are gonna be dating them so do and date whoever you want and don't worry about what others got to say about it. We are the same inside.

Answer 4

Let me ask this question. Why is it that you like light skinned women. Although I am the first to say that color doesn't matter, it always upset me when I ask black man why he like light skinned woman and they give me the same nut a** excuse (That light skinned women are prettier or will make prettier babies). This train of thought is "slave mentality". It is he way slave owner divided African American during slavery. They used a paper bag to decide if one would be a house slave or a field slave. If you were lighter than the bag than you went in the house, so you can guess what happened to those darker than the bag. Black people have been lead to believe that lighter skin is more beautiful. However beauty comes in all shades. I say don't limit yourself. I am a light skinned, light eyed African American woman with "good hair" and my husband is dark chocolate and my children vary but they are all beautiful. I don't care what color a person is as long as you love them for who they are and not because of the color of their skin.

Answer 5

Hey! Good Topic! Of course you should never feel obligated to date a black woman!On the other hand maybe you should ask yourself why you think SOME Black woman feel this way....just to throw a few maybes out there: Black men seem to stereotype black woman in a very negative way saying that they are clingy with nasty attitudes among other things to justify their choice to date outside of their race, also in the media White woman are basically put on a pedal stool and in a whole lot of movies black men lust after white woman or latino woman other than black woman...But as far as why they're angry, it could be a number of reasons.........How would you feel if a Black woman only dated white men and gave negative sterotypes of why they chose to date outside their race?.....And to that other comment about black woman are jealous from Sandi... Black woman in my opinion have NO reason to be Jealous we Came with Big breast, Nice Asses,Full Lips, Style,A beautiful array of skin colors and nice personalities so what is it to be jealous of?

Answer 6

I think that we should all be able to date who we would like- I think society today has been so mixed that within the next few decades, it will be so widely accepted to date outside your race, not only that, but i think the races will just meld together because there are so many interracial couples having children. I am a white woman and have dated white men, black men and almost everything in between- and of course i got the whole "you got jungle fever" line from my brothers... but eventually, they accepted it. I personally think that people should date whoever it is they are attracted to and whoever it is that makes them happy!!

Answer 7

If you date a black girl just because she's black, does that make you any less of a racist than if you only dated a white girl because she's white? (or a Latina or Asian girl, for that matter)

If you really loved a woman, the color of her skin would be the last thing on your mind.

Answer 8

No. What men, regardless of race or color, should feel obligated to is to treat their ladies with respect, dignity, and honesty. I hate it when someone tries to tell you who to love and who not to love, that sh*t went out with Romeo and Juliet, dude. This is your life, if you like white, black, Asian, Hispanic, or mixed women, it's your business. And brother, I don't prefer lighter skinned black women, I prefer "women" in general.

Answer 9

All people should be able to freely (and without comment) date whomever they choose (including, of course, gay people).
Date and don't listen to the hate.

After seeing your added details I find you despicable. You date on nothing but a woman's looks and the status you think they will bring you in front of your friends. You're pathetic. I don't know why the black girls even wanna mess with you. They probably don't.

Answer 10

This is already a sad world. You don't have to withhold your own preference to make up for the "injustice", however. Go after people you like, as long as it's legal, and moral. So white, black, yellow, red, pink, blue, who cares. Look for a good person.