he use 2 be out going and happy and he eat all the time but now all he wants 2 do is smoke he dose not care about any thing anymore so what can i do 2 save him from himself
2006-11-01 12:44:18 · 6 answers · asked by misery the demon within 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have to agree with Rick D on this one;
You can not help him, only he can help himself if and when he wants to.
I get so tired of people trying to "fix" their partners, childen etc, even though they're doing it because they love them and want the best for them. This is because i used to have a problem once too.
You can lead a horse to water, but you definitely can not make it drink. You are only going to get your heart broken if you think you can change him, fix him or cure him.
It's not your fault either. He is the way he is because he let himself become that way.
Leave him untill he can sort himself out. Don't let him drag you down with him. Be a supportive friend, but leave it at that for now. He's in no state of mind to offer you a healthy relationship right now.
If he comes out the other side ok, then give it another go. If he can't get it together within reasonable time, then leave him to it.
Sometimes it's hard, but you have to accept that people go in different life directions, and this maybe the case for you.
Good luck
2006-11-01 13:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is already aware that you are worried about him and he's not doing anything about it then it's time to do something drastic. Start ignoring him, don't be too caring. Don't treat him like a poor boy who needs care and attention. Give him as much cold shoulder as he gives to u. But if he doesnt know that u're aware of his difference then do e 'care bear' stuff before jumping into cold shoulder stage. If all fails, drink and smoke with him! but dont get addicted... Just in case it's depression, maybe u shuld try to find out more about wat's happening before doing 'cold shoulder'. :)
2006-11-01 20:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smoke I guess you mean the big M......
I thought all those lefties said it wasn't addictive.
Honestly you cannot do anything, he has to want to help
himself, he may have to hit rock bottom, it may take awhile.
Do not have any children by him, and cut your losses....
before its too late...He needs to grow up, perhaps have a
boot up his ***.......Catch him when he is straight and tell him
how you feel, tell him your leaving if he doesn't get professional
help. Don't waste your life this early, or your final reward will be heartaches and tears.
2006-11-01 20:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rick D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probabbly has depression. Just give lots of hugs and emotiional supprt.
2006-11-01 20:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by operajester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be unhappy but the question is WHY??? is it YOU or just boredom?
2006-11-01 20:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by menace_two_society187 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him
2006-11-01 20:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by ando ciompa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋