I have been studying for two years in Toronto. She was teaching in Austrialia, she is back now and after talking with her (we have been friends for ten years) I realize that I really do love her and don't know if she feels the same way. Should I tell her? Or just keep going on with what I'm doing?
2006-11-01 12:40:26 · 10 answers · asked by decerning 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask your superior for some time out to discern. This is fairly common for seminary students and you shouldn't have any trouble getting his permission. During this "discernment", ask the girl out, see her in a variety of situations; you will be able to determine if you have a vocation to the priesthood or to marriage. Best wishes and good luck.
2006-11-01 13:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty deep but I would think that you have to make the choice that you can live with. Being a priest is a massive undertaking but you are still human. I would imagine that you will meet more than one woman in your lifetime that you might like... it will happen. I would think that being a priest is a choice you will have to make on a daily basis... all I can say is that if this woman is the one for you, or if just the realization of your feelings for her has made you aware of other options for your life, you should make the choice now before you become a priest. God loves you no matter what your choice and you can be a strong man of faith and help your community without going as far as being a priest... remember that much. God Bless you and Good Luck.
2006-11-01 12:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely shouldn't "just keep going on with what you're doing"
A calling to be a priest has to be a true and genuine calling--not something you do because you can't have your first desire. There is no shame in not being a priest and "only" being a believer--we all have different gifts to serve the Lord, perhaps your gift isn't to be a priest.
Telling this girl shouldn't really have anything to do with your decision to stay in the priesthood or not. You need to make your own decisions between you and God, and then tell her. This is because her reaction should have nothing to do with what you decide. For instance, *if* she was to reject your feelings, it's not necessarily a good idea to decide to go back to being a priest. As I said, it has to be your first desire, and not a fall back because what you really wanted didn't work out. Above everything, keep praying for direction and guidance.
2006-11-01 12:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem... I am discerning to become a nun. But at the same time, I am falling in love with my best friend. I also don't know if he feels the same way that I do. but i probably won't tell him how I feel. at least not until i know for sure whether or not religious life is where i belong. you just have to think really if becoming a priest is right for you or if marriage would be a better fit. I personally think that becoming a nun is more desirous than marriage for me. Yet this guy is still my best friend whom I love and I could see us together for life. You just have to think whether you desire a small family (husband, wife, child type family) or a larger one where you are the father of many children and have your brothers and sisters in Christ. The latter is larger because you are able to meet so many more people and at the same timebe a father to them... you become a leader and marry the church.
Praying for you. Please pray for me too!
2006-11-04 13:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with Marilynn. you should seriously pray about this and see which road God is leading you on. you will know when you get your answer. it may not come in the form of God's voice. you might fail some test in becoming a priest or something like that. otherwise, i think you should keep your course unless you see a certain sign. if you really do love her, and she loves you, God will surely find a way to bring you together. of course, if your training to become a priest you probably already know this stuff. but i just thought i'd put in my two cents.
"Hope for the best and pray for God's will"
2006-11-01 12:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The priest is right. Im sure he thinks your a Beautiful women. Hes doing you good by not going out with you. Theres a reason why you have bad relations with men in the past. You need to take a break from boys. Stop datingg, and listen to what the preist is telling you. He wants to help you.
2016-05-23 09:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you want to be a priest or if you want to be with this girl. It seems to me if your even thinking of being with this girl than being a priest is not the right thing for you. I love GOD though and don't want to tell you not to be a priest. Pray about it, you won't find your answer here.
2006-11-01 12:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right, do it. Don't do something you are going to regret later. Being a priest requires a vow of celibacy. If you are not up to it, don't do it.
2006-11-01 12:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by countryboy_ga1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big decision, but I think in your heart and soul you know NOW what you must do.
Seek wisdom and make your decision.
God and Peace be with you.
2006-11-05 06:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible the Apostle Paul says that it is better to marry than burn with desire. If you love someone you should follow your heart! God created male and female to be together. If you have love for someone, it is better to follow that than to burn with that desire.
2006-11-01 12:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Annie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋