We had intimate moments but he don't call often.Help..?

Question

We went out several times and we don't define our relationship. He would call when he wants to go out at least once every 2 weeks and we always end up in bed. He would stare at me during intercourse and afterwards while he sleeps he wants me close and near and don't want to turn his back against me. I don't know if he is serious or if he will pursue the relationship.He admitted recently that he is committed now to someone else and they are getting married next year.The last time he said that he is now in doubt to pursue the marriage plan with her and he laid down the cards.He tells me more about him,and he asks more and more questions about me.Where do i fall? Where do I stand?It should be more than just a fling but still not a serious relationship and i am now taking my distance from him,am i making the right moves?He would tease me about being fat but kiss me torridly.We had intimate moments but he don't call often.Help..

Answer 1

this sounds like exactly what i'm going through. isn't it frustrating and confusing????!! well, first of all, I think it's really sh(itty of him to be contemplating marriage with someone while in the process of cheating on them, don't you? would you want to risk being with a guy who might do the same thing to you? i wouldn't. second, if he's got your number, other than just wanting you for a booty call when he gets tired of his fiancee, why else wouldn't he call? being too "busy?" Bulls(hit. I hate to break it to you, sweetie, but it sounds like you're not only letting this guy have his cake and eat it too, you're allowing him a free pass to 24 hour buffet!!!!You're a booty call!!!! You're worth more than how he's treating you, and I wouldn't even get involved with a guy who's considering marriage with someone else. He was probably telling you that he's "having doubts" about getting married just to string you along so he can keep on f)ucking you.at his convenience. He isn't calling you b/c he isn't into you. and I'll bet the only time he DOES call is when he wants to get laid. I'd tell this guy to buy a one way ticket to hell and stick it up his a(ss after he f(ucks off. Next time, make sure the guy isn't technically taken, and set higher standards. You gotta understand how men think. Sex doesn't always mean love. Best wishes.

Answer 2

That guy is a total JERK. By now, you should know that. What man would have a relationship with another woman when they have a partner and getting married soon? LOSER. He's using you for a temporary thrill, and being the romantic that you are, you fell for his charm. Cut him out of your life and find a real man, girl! If I were you, I'd write a letter to his fiancee and tell her what he has been doing behind her back and ask her to watch out. She's a victim too in this situation, and she needs to know about him before she says I Do soon.

Answer 3

You made your first mistake when you had intimate moments! that is a BIG NO NO! You flubbed up for sure. Leave the man alone he has another girlfriend for goodness sake. Are you stupid? I hope not! He just wants you for sex and plenty of other guys might want you for sex too because all cats are grey in the dark, dummy! Figure it out! Girl, it is time to wise up, Save yourself for marriage, Surely, you are worth more than a roll in the hay! You better start praying and fast to get yourself on the right track cause you are headed on the fast track to hellish grief if you don't soon wise up!

Answer 4

Leave this man alone he will only cause you hurt. Even if he breaks off his marriage.....if he does it with you he will no doubt do it to you. Besides, put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if you put all your trust in a man, and were planning to marry him yet every couple of weeks he's got some strange piece of *** in his bed. It's just wrong......you're a great example of why women have a hard time trusting men. You are THAT woman!

Answer 5

Unlike many of the other respondents, I think there might be some hope here. He may be reconsidering his commitment to another woman. You need to be sweet and interest in him, but slow down. Cool it with the sexual intimacy. I know, I know, difficult to do considering your past couplings with him, but try to cool it for awhile, yet spend time talking with him about his life, his interests, his job, his friends. Good luck, honey, and if you do have to move on---don't fall into bed so fast the next time!

Answer 6

Your in love with a cheater,and he's playing you like a two dollar whore.If he broke up with his so-called girlfriend and started dating you,he would soon cheat on you as well.Be smart and do the smart thing and forget about him and his lies and move on.Haven't your feelings been played with long enough?I'm sure you can find someone else to be with.Do it!

Answer 7

Hate to say this, but you are his "easy piece" when he wants some sex. You are being used!! It's up to you to say "not tonight" and see his reaction. If he agrees, maybe he really does care. If he walks out, you haven't lost anything because you didn't have anything to start with. If you think sex will attract and hold him, you're wrong. If you want the sex for yourself, use him too and don't expect anything more.

Answer 8

You really don't know?! He's just using you for sex, and he's figured out your easy. Respect yourself and tell men to respect you. Can't believe how gullible people are. This may seem harsh but it's the honest to goodness truth.

Answer 9

Move on. He is getting married and already cheating on his fiance.

He will either ditch her (Unlikely) or end up ruining that relationship from infidelity.

Answer 10

yes . i can understand that . intimate doesn't exactly mean romantic . but then again... to some people, feces can be very romantic .