This boy in my class asked me to be his girlfriend but i don't like him. I don't want to be mean because he is really sweet. I am afraid he's going to get depressed because last year a girl said no to him and for the rest of the year he was so depressed. So what do I say no or should i even say no? Please help me!!!! I need help!!!!!!! FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 12:23:02 · 18 answers · asked by CraziChild4Lyfe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him that you are not interested in his little bacon bit.
2006-11-01 12:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't think there is a nice way to say "no". But the best thing to do is tell him how you feel. You can never go wrong with that. I know what it is like when you don't want to hurt some one's feelings. But in the end, would it be better to hurt them truthfully before things get too far, or have them find out in the end that whatever relationship you guys built together was all out of pity and not real. That would hurt a lot more. Also ask yourself, how would you like to be let down. Knowing how you would like it, use that as a base to letting him know how you feel. Make sense?
2006-11-01 20:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by vaughnram 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just say no in as nice of a way as possible. I know that doesn't really tell you anything, but the fact is: All you can do is be nice to him about it. It's going to hurt his feelings. It's as simple as that. I don't think he's going to be depressed for a full year because you said no.. And something tells me that it wasn't the case last year either..
2006-11-01 20:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
u should say no. because if u don't feel that way about him then he is not for u and no point in going out with him. and u shouldn't go out with someone just because u feel bad to say no cuz it may go too far if u do. there is no really nice way to say no. i think the best way though is to just say ur not ready for a relationship yet. thats what i would say if i were u.
2006-11-01 20:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by kkdej89 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what to say really but i think it's cool that you don't want to hurt his feelings. Maybe try explaining to him there's no spark there. But I'm not sure having been turned down twice in highschool I spent a longtime depressed and it killed myself confidence for a long time. But I bounced back. I'm sure he will too.
Good Luck
2006-11-01 20:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the responses that these guys and girls have said are pretty much true. You can't control how this guy feels, it's his own problem if he can't deal with a girl saying no. Not to say you should go up and tell him he doesn't have a chance with anyone, but just say no.
2006-11-01 20:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're not responsible for him being a spineless loser who can't get over a rejection. Do your best to be nice to him, tell him he's really sweet (like you just told us), but you're just not interested right now. How he reacts is out of your control. You're not in the babysitting business.
2006-11-01 20:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jason D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what a dilemma! ultimately my dear honesty is the best policy here ...you need to tell him you dont like him that way...you rather be friends...ah if only you can die of a broken heart...dont worry he will bounce back...sounds like he doesnt take rejection too well but you will feel better once you know that you couldnt go on and deceive him like that can you ? you need to do what is right and tell him you want to be friends and you think hes a awesome guy but you dont like him like that ... its not your fault you are so attractive lol
2006-11-01 20:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be honest. The worst thing you could do is give him false hope. Don't flirt with him and make him think you like him. Just explain to him that you want to stay friends and that is it.
2006-11-01 20:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First is not your problem he can not handle rejection, but is nice for you to worry, tell him you like him better as a friend, and that beeing in a relationship might hurt that friendship.
He is going to suffer, no doubt about it, but you can not date him just to save him from suffering.
2006-11-01 20:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok, from what i've read it seems like you care about this guys feelings, are you sure u want to say no!?!
Anyway my line that always seems to work is, im really not ready for a relationship at the moment i really need to concentrate on my studies.
I know it sounds boring but trust me it works.
2006-11-01 20:27:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋