Been dating this guy since May, things are great, been taking it kind of slow, seeing each other once or twice a week, and talking daily. And I'm pretty sure that over the course of the last month or so that I have completely fallen for him. I know he is into me, but if I tell I love him will it send him running? Why do those 3 word freak men out? FYI we are both in our 30's, so this is not kids stuff, it's the real deal.
2006-11-01 12:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by sassy2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him you think you might be in love with him. The reason "I love you" is so hard on men is because it's very blunt and has too many implications. What I suggested fixes both those problems. Just make sure you know him VERY well (like everything bad, good, and inbetween that has happened in his life) before you consider marriage. Good luck =)
2006-11-01 12:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by サンダース 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those words never freaked me out. However, some people can feel smothered or trapped when they hear them. Don't let that stop you from voicing how you feel. This fear is not universal and may not apply to this guy. If it does, then that's an issue he needs to deal with. If you state your feelings to this guy and he freaks out then discuss it with him. It may be something simple you can work through together. If not then you don't have to waste anymore time with a relationship that only suits his needs and isn't going to go in the direction you need it to. Good luck.
2006-11-01 21:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where's a mature guy at? did you actually see him or was it a figment of your imagination. some people say mature men are like Santa Claus, you always hear about him, but you never actually see him for yourself. (smile) All jokes aside, men have a problem expressing their inner feelings as is and when you put the pressure on them to tell you their thoughts or feelings, then we have to be some kinda whacko for even asking. If that's the way you feel about him then you should have no problem telling him that. (as women, we have no problem expressing/sharing our thoughts and feelings) Even if he doesn't say it back to you, you need to be paying attention to his actions. (I'm sure you know the old saying about actions speaking louder than words.) If his actions (the way he treats you overall) tells you the words that he has a hard time saying, accept it for what it is. Hopefully, as time goes on, he'll be able to get over any fears or hesitations, and he'll be able to say the words to you (or back to you) with no problem. Maybe, since he's older, committment and stability is something he's hoping for, too. GL2U (good luck 2 you1)
2006-11-01 20:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont you start to see him more often, i´d say 4 times a week probably, and also start to do things with the guy, perhaps some sort of activity together. if everything is going great dont rush things up, women always do that. the guy is already into ya otherwise after two months he was already gone.
2006-11-01 20:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tana Umaga 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he runs, then it was not meant to be. If the two of you really care for each other, then take the next step. When a guy really has found "the one", he will not run away at those three little words.
2006-11-01 20:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look I am a girl and I will share my point of view on your question. If you're not sure to say those words to him don't say them at all. I truly believe that when I feel like saying something I truly feel I don't have second thoughts or feel freaked out, I just say it like I feel them like it is.
2006-11-01 20:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by claudia91701 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because like everything else women do or say we have no way of knowing if it is the truth, a test or one of your twisted mind games.
2006-11-01 20:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest if that is how you feel. he may feel the same way but is afraid of rejection from you, so be a big girl and make the first step forward. hope you get the response your looking for
2006-11-01 20:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cuz guys hate to b clung on to...or "locked" into a relationship
2006-11-01 20:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by d_unit2k7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ohh, I got this one, tell him ORALLY that will make him understand!
2006-11-01 20:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋