I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I love him and we have talked about getting married after we graduate from college this spring. But two weeks ago I met a guy I work with and we really hit it off. I have butterflies everytime I talk to him and he has asked for my number so I know he is interested. I don't know if I should leave my boyfriend to pursue this new relationship. I don't want to lose my boyfriend because I do see a future with him, but I don't want to miss out on anything since I am still young. I've been really stressed worrying about this and its making me fight with my boyfriend. Is it normal to have feelings for someone else when you've been with one person for a while? Please help with any advice
2006-11-01 12:06:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's totally normal. The human brain is not supposed to be equipped with a monogamy-tracked mind.
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I find myself crushing on others all the time. You're probably around my age, too. I graduated from college in may, and I'm in the same boat. We talk about getting married and all that, but realize, you're only 21 or 22, and there's plenty else out there. Just take it day by day. You probably think about breaking up all the time, but you feel bad for letting him down after all you've been through with him.
But you've got to be happy, too. The fact that you're thinking about someone else is an indicator that you're not completely head over heels with your current beau, either, or else you wouldn't be asking this question.
Life doesn't have to be planned out and followed to a tee. If you take a break, you've also got to be willing to accept that your current guy is also going to go out with other girls. Is that something you can handle? And if you can, then I say the relationship really needs to be broken off for awhile. And if, after some time apart, you realize it was a mistake, then you can always get back together.
2006-11-01 12:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Meredith B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stay with your boyfriend but you should not shut the other guy out totally. Explain to the new guy that you are in a committed relationship and that trust and honesty are important to you. Tell him that you can be platonic friends because you don't cheat. He will respect you and in my humble opinion this will frive him crazy and make him want you more. It's good to have friends and not shut yourself off from others completely based on "potential." What if you guys don't get married? Keep all options open until you're engaged or actually married.
2006-11-01 20:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal..what's worrying is that you are finding yourself attracted to another...it may be a good idea for you to cool off from your relationship for a while..ask for a break? I did that after being with a guy for 4 years....had a great time...ended up getting back with him for only for a few more months....I then met my husband and have been with him for 16 years. If in doubt...feel yourself out...and take a break. You are young and cant possibly know what the future holds...enjoy your life..!!
2006-11-01 20:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been a while with your boyfriend. You are very young. Dont want to live with regrets. Hard choice. Hard to live life without a few regrets. Your pulse races and your body is excited. Boyfriend now, reached climax already. So you have that info stored in your memory bank. Boring? Probably. Been there? Yes. You have done all that with him. So for a life where you break the silence, you have to shatter all that is in place. go for it momma , nothings for sure. but he got you hot. go for it.
2006-11-01 20:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal to have feelings for someone else --- the important fact is how you handle them
jumping from your boyfriend for no reason better than --- i may miss something --- is not wise
how would you feel if he did that to you
relationships are about trust and caring --- your boyfriend trusts you --- are you going to betray that trust? or realise that you are on a good thing and stay there
2006-11-01 20:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave the guy you have been dating for 3 years
if you do you have just wasted 3 years of year life and can never replace them.
2006-11-01 20:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Miley Cyrus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that your ready to settle down? It doesn't sound like to me that you are. Are you sure this is not just a crush?
2006-11-01 20:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋