Agg! This goes against how I've been raised. It breaks one f the 10 commandments and one of the verses from Romans in the bible, but it feels as though it is built in me and I've been praying praying praying to have God "fix" me! Yeah, you must know where I'm going with this...I have this inner office crush I can't have and it affects my behavior whenever I'm around this person. I can't even look (him/her) in the eye! I try to talk to (him/her) but sometimes there's something inside I can't help...(He/She) often mentions (his/her) spouse when I do something that reminds (him/her) of (his/her) spouse, so I can' t figure out if (he/she) knows....Give me any hints that (he/she) might know. Like, what body language or verbal language am I to expect?...And I'd appreciate any advice you might have in this situation! Why was I born this way?
2006-11-01 11:54:42 · 15 answers · asked by charlielikespeanutbutter 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is much we don't know about the devil's methods, but we do know we need to be alert and constantly on guard against him, and not let ourselves be led astray by his lies. The Bible's warning is clear: "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour" (1 Peter 5:8).
Yes, at times the devil does seem to put thoughts into our minds—at least if we are open to his influence. At one point in Judas' life, we read that "Satan entered into him," and he immediately left to betray Jesus (John 13:27). Judas had already decided to betray Jesus and had already made his arrangements—but from that moment on there was no turning back.
But Satan doesn't have to put thoughts in our heads to get us to do wrong, because we already lean that way. Our sinful nature is constantly pulling us away from God, and tempting us to do evil. The Bible says, "But each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed" (James 1:14).
The most important thing I can say about this, however, is that Christ has defeated Satan! By His death and resurrection He overpowered all the forces of death and sin and evil, and He helps us overcome Satan's temptations when we turn in faith to Him. Have you committed your life to Him?
The best way to avoid giving in to temptation is to flee from it the moment it appears. This is why Paul told his young friend Timothy to "Flee the evil desires of youth" (2 Timothy 2:22). The Bible also says, "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18).
Did you ever play with a magnet when you were a child? If so, you may have noticed that the closer you brought it to a piece of iron, the stronger its pull became. The same is true of temptation. The longer you toy with it and think about it, the stronger its attraction becomes, and the more likely you are to give in to it. Flee temptation just as you would flee from a deadly poison, for that is what sin is—a deadly poison.
From what you say, however, you have already allowed this temptation to take root in your heart and mind. Don't tolerate it another minute, but do whatever you must do to flee from it. The Bible warns, "Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man's wife" (Proverbs 6:28-29).
Most of all, you need to yield yourself to Christ. God loves you and He doesn't want you to destroy a marriage and your future. Instead, He wants to help you resist temptation and live the way you should. Turn to Christ and commit your life to Him today.
2006-11-01 12:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, go back to the Ten Commandments and forget the other (often contradictory) stuff.
I'm assuming you're single, or you would have mentioned the potential adultery on your side. And probably gay as well, based on the gender vagueness. So, like I said, when in doubt, worry about the commandment and not the picky little rules.
It's perfectly natural to have sexual urges - God gave you your body and the its urges. But God also gave you a soul, that you could be something more than *just* your body. So don't beat yourself up for having urges, but don't convince yourself it's okay to put the moves on someone's spouse. Plus, work romances are highly unprofessional.
Forget about whether or not your crush likes you or knows. They are married, and therefore off-limits! Try to limit your interaction with them as much as possible; stay polite but distant. Pursue more appropriate matches actively; singles mixers and dating will distract you until your desire for this person expires.
It doesn't matter how you were "born." What matters is what you choose to do about it.
2006-11-01 20:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay what you need to do is stop praying about it and approach he/she and state your case. In this way you not only get this out in the open and off your mind so you can work but you give the other person honesty and the opportunity to respond to what you are feeling.
Wondering, hints, guessing and dreaming are all things that children do about the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus so let's act like the adult you should be and face the situation. If you can't, there is no sense thinking about it any longer, that would prove that you are not ready for any kind of adult relationship with this or any other person. Sorry but as a she/he person myself, I can respect honesty and forthrightness but never playing games.
2006-11-01 20:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by ImMappam 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I struggled a long time to find freedom from a particular sin, myself. It wasn't until I was able to focus on Jesus everytime I felt the temptation that I was able to replace those thoughts with other, more noble ones. I'm talking years of struggling, too! The worst thing any of us can do is to give up. Yes, we're sinners; but that's why we depend so heavily upon Christ, the author and finisher of our faith. There's no way we can overcome ourselves.
When you fall, ask Him to lift you up out of the sinful thoughts and into His will for that moment. It's a moment by moment thing, so always pray...NEVER GIVE UP...and keep reading His word. If you did give up, then of course there'd be no more struggle; but satan would also claim the victory.
Here's a good promise to claim everyday before going to work:
James 4:7
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
PS) You're in my prayers.^^
2006-11-01 20:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by adrift feline 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well bud, if you are getting compared to a spouse, they are thinking of you on a personal level..if I ever tell a man he is doing something like my husband..it means that I am really noticing him..more than I need to be and am trying to re-focus on the fact that I am very married!! lol
2006-11-01 19:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by kat k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is flattered that have demonstrated that you fancy her. It has been clearly obvious owing to you being totally obvious.
She is flattered and has been mentioning that her husband used to into jelly around her too She mentions her husband all the time. She is saying ' i am married' as you know so do not rock the boat.
the book of James in the bible , chapter 7 verses 14 , 15. look them up. Wha t are you desiring? remember Cain ?
2006-11-01 20:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by djfjedi1976 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will Pray God gives you peace of mind and strength to deal with this to lead you not into temptation it is OK to love but not to lust I know our greatest battle is with our selves and our flesh May God Bless Your heart and clean your mind and Let the Lord be with you all of your Days
2006-11-01 20:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You werent born that way, your tempted that way. And youve got to overcome it. God would not allow it to happen to you if he did not KNOW that you were capable of overcoming it. Pray about it. Pray whenever you see (him/her). Just pray and try not to focus on them. Any thought that entersyour mind that is contrary to God's will, throw it out immediatly.
2006-11-01 19:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Shane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop picking on your self for being human.
He keeps bringing up his spouse so you realise that he loves her and is not interested in messing around. Take the hint and move on.
Love and blessings Don
2006-11-01 19:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You were not born that way. I can assure you. We are all tempted with sins from Satan. He deceives us making us think that we are a particular way from birth. You have to put your total focus on God during this time. Pray for strength and deliverance. I understand where you're coming from ... trust me.
2006-11-01 20:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋