What's the best way to be helpful when that person is constantly in and out of the hospital, and near their last days?
2006-11-01 11:52:02 · 20 answers · asked by AngeloElectro 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
older people always seem to like to talk about their life and lessons they want to pass on. so give this person that opportunity. also you could find out what their prescribed diet is and find stuff that they could eat. mow their lawn. anything that makes their life easier and feel appreciated. when someone gets older and close to the end of their life they tend to feel a bit useless and if someone takes the time to be nice...well, it makes a considerable difference to them.
2006-11-01 11:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by JJK789 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Knock on their door and see how they are.
Ask if there's anything you can get at the market, or if there's anyone you can call for them.
If they can still eat food, find out if there's anything they especially like and maybe try to make it for them, or pick it up at the market.
It's sort of like when you buy a present for someone. You don't always know exactly what to buy, but you just do your best to come up with something you think they'll like. And even if it's not, most people will appreciate the thoughtfulness behind the gift.
Sometimes, just knowing that someone cares a little could make this person's day.
You're very kind to think of this person. There should be more people like you.
2006-11-01 20:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Elderly are the forgotten builders of our great nation. If they did not have a parachute clause when they were leading a fortune 500 company, then their lives are from paycheck to paycheck.
Just visiting them so they know their existence on this earth is not forgotten. Have kind words of youth, they like that. And connecting through contact, shoulder on the hand or holding their hand is an awesome thing.
Good luck...
2006-11-01 20:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by JOHNNY D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I work with the elderly and the best way to help is not to say "Is there anything I can do?" We are all programmed from birth to say "No, I'm fine." If you say "Hey I noticed there's a light burned out.... or I made to much pizza or whatever and wondered if you could help me out? If you phrase it like they are doing you a favor it lets them feel to accept and yet they know you are being sweet. By the way good for you!!
2006-11-01 20:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Laura B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop in to check on them, maybe deliver a hot meal or two. Take the time to stop by and help out with some chores or whatever needs to be done.
Just being there and lending a helping hand can make the best of someone's world, letting them know that you care.
2006-11-01 19:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by linnaete 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Try offering to cook a meal for your neighbor or simply drop by for a visit, maybe offer to read something for him or her. Being disconnected is a very sad and negative feeling. I am sure any of these ideas will brighten your neighbors day. Don't forget to say a prayer.
2006-11-01 23:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nice neighbor you are. Why don't you ask them what they need, and then go from there.
A few suggestions would be:
-get their groceries for them
-cook them a meal
-take them to doctor appointments
-help clean their home for them
Maybe they don't need you to do anything except come over and keep them company.
2006-11-02 08:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than enjoying their favorite food, I don't see what else they would need. If you really want to be helpful, you can offer to do things for them which they might want done. Don't they have a caregiver? Does the caregiver need help? Ask.
2006-11-02 03:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help them by being there, whether it is fixing them food or cleaning their house or bringing in their mail. Talk to them , find out if there is something they have always longed to do but never got the chance and it it is feasible help them do it.
2006-11-01 19:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by DRAGON LADY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Check in on them, clean their yard, wash the car, clean the house, do their laundry, or maybe they would like for you to read to them, take them dinner. Ask them what they may need or what needs to be done they can't do. Take them to the doctor, just let them know you care.
2006-11-01 20:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by crash 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋