I met this great guy about 4 months ago & sensed he was nursing a broken heart but decided to take a chance because he was a genuinely decent guy. It started off casual & in time he made mention of things he wanted to do together next year & from now on, etc. I read those things to mean that he felt safe about something beyond the casual realtionship we had. I tried to slowly over a course of 3-4 weeks get him to open up more to me & open myself up to him. Nothing! So instead of assuming that he would get it, I told him I wanted him to open up to me. He broke it off with me. He said that even though no one else had ever treated him as well as I had & he had true feelings for me, he didn't see me as someone he'd spend the rest of his life with. Why was that in the equation of a casual relationship & how would he know that without taking the time to get to know me? Am I right that he is just afraid to love again & running? Was it too soon to ask him to open up to me? I'm so confused.
2006-11-01
11:45:47
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PisceKween
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Also, when I asked him to open up to me, I made it really clear that I wasn't asking for any declaration of love or for him to claim me as his GF. I was content with how things were outside of the fact that he wouldn't open up and talk to me. Even after saying that, he cut it off. He said I was settling. He's probably right but at the same time, I too am healing from a past relationship and thought the casualness of our relationship fit well. I figured in time, maybe we'd both be ready. I made it clear I wasn't seeking a relationship anymore than he was. I was simply trying to get him to talk to me like he would with any of his other friends, of whom he is very open with. Was it wrong to want to talk to him about something beyond how our day at work went? Does opening up to someone equate to seeking a deeper relationship with someone, even if you state that you are not seeking something long term at the time?
2006-11-01
11:46:28 ·
update #1