what are the complications of being a single parent?

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Answer 1

its very hard when it comes time to take care of the kids you are alone but babies are wonderful

Answer 2

I am 48 and have been a single parent scince I was 22...my child is now 27. His father I never saw after he was one year old and he never paid a dime to support him his whole life.
I am not sure why you are asking this question--but I will tell you-my own opinion-I would never choose to be a single parent for anyone. It is very difficult unless you are in your late 20s financially secure and want a child-that would be your choice.Still difficult.I had tremendous help from my family as far as emotional support...its hard because in a way you and your child form an almost unhealthy bond cause its just the two of you-also school functions-teachers treat you differently when there is a father standing there-they shouldn't but they do.Work never understands that you are the only parent-so if a child is unwell or having problems -you are it-and they won't let you leave...Don't get me wrong I love my child with my whole heart-I was married young to the wrong person-had a child and left on my own--you have to be strong-courageous-know that there will be no one there to hold your hand through it all-or help you make desicions. I have survived it all-he is a man-I am here alone now-now is when I miss having a partner more than before.....If you are young and pregnant or thinking of it-I wouldn't advise it.........wait until you are more mature...

Answer 3

I wouldnt say complication you have the same struggles as any working mother you have to find the right child care and so forth but you have ways where the government will pay for child care

As far as money you have to get child support and if they have a good father then he will pay and it does get difficult because if you are married you put your money together and you can afford to do things and as a single parent you have to save more so that you and your kids dont miss out like one thing that i save for is vacation i believe every year we should go on vacation so I cut back on other things like eating out all the time

then you also are the mother and the father so you have to do everything cook, clean, discipline, teach, etc which is not a complication its just sometimes you dont know if what you have done is the right thing and you need support and thats where a husband would step in but you have to trust your gut

you also have to learn how to make me time because alot of times you work 40 hrs or more and then you have to come home and be mommy because your kids have to eat they have spend time with you and you dont get a chance to yourself so the best thing for me bedtime at 8 or 8:30 and the rest of the night is for me and

grandparents are the best thing also because they will take them for the day and you can get a pedicure or just sleep but as long as you have support I wouldnt say there is complications

Answer 4

I have learned during my marriage to a child development specialist, and as a long time Little league coach that homes without both a mother and a father often produce children that either lack the empathy and ability to give and accept mature love that a mother typically provides, or the discipline and focus that a father typically provides. There is a good reason why humans need both a mother and a father. Balance. Nowadays, when I see a young person gone wrong, the first thing I ask is if there is a father in the home. Almost always the answer is no. Please do not have children if you are unmarried. Your heart will be broken one day if your child has no father in the home. Having a child is a life long commitment that carries with it an obligation to provided your child with the teachings and examples that a dedicated mother AND father give to the child. Men and women are different and add different life skills to their children. Usually, men make lousy mothers. Likewise, woment make poor fathers. Don't shortchange your child. Give them both for a healthy mental and emotional state.

Answer 5

I had to address these "issues":
Your child misses out on the opportunity to live in a loving two parent home. Just because a home has two parents doesn't make it a "loving" home. If there is no love in the home then having two parents isn't going to be any better than a single parent home. I grew up in a "loving" two parent home, my alcoholic father beat the crap out of me and my bi polar mother blamed me for keepign her tied in a marriage she didn't want. So tell me how much BETTER was my "loving" two parent home than my daughter's single parent growing up where she was disciplined with love and consitensy, her parents weren't at each other's throats, in fact her parents were quite cordial. She grew up with the love of her parents, her parent's chosen life partners, grandparents, on both sides as well as "semi grandparents' the parents of her parent's chosen partners. That beats the crap out of the "loving" two parent home I came from.

Your child will be stuck in daycare while you work long hours for low pay. My daughter had a wonderful time in day care she learned a great deal like getting along with all kinds of people from different background and cultures. I worked long hours but the pay was far from low.

Being in a single parent family can have it's advantages and daycare isn't a "horrible" place. It is only that way for those who prefer to think negativly about life in general.

Moral of the story, there is good and bad on both sides of the fence, and life doesn't come with guarantees.
There are just as many "complications" being a single parent as there are with two parents. And not every two parent family is a "loving" "Leave it to Beaver" family.

Answer 6

You'll have to double your love to your kids. What a growing child need is love, love from the heart. A single parent should not love the children with money but also spend time with the children and most imptly, say "I love you" to the kids. Without the assurance of love, the kids will grow up to be insecure which will lead to be broken and they'll search for love at the wrong places. There's not much complications, it's just knowing how to love.

Answer 7

i believe there's no complications about being a parent - a child is a absolutely wonderful gift. i would hope that the world will stop using labels and start looking into quality. Whether a gay, single, aged, divorced parent - as long as he/she provide a whole lot of unconditional love, love that is measured with a level of sacrifice, determination and in belief the the child will grown up to a responsible compasionate adult.

I feel one should worry about being a bad parent than a single parent. Remember, it takes years to raise a child to an adult but just one moment to destory the childhood.

Raise with love. not with labels!

Answer 8

The biggest complication of being a single parent is that you do it on one paycheck. I know a lot of two parent families that might as well be single parent families as far as child-rearing goes. The primary caregiver (usually the female) works all day and then comes home and takes care of the child(ren). She prepares supper, supervises their playtime, gives them their baths, then pj's, stories, bedtime, etc.

I also disagree with one answerer on the point of daycare: Yes, your child will most likely be in daycare, but the children of lots of dual-income families are in daycare also. Also, daycare isn't like the orphanage in Little Orphan Annie...its a learning fun atmosphere that in a lot of ways makes up for children coming from small families with few or no siblings.

Answer 9

There are many complicatios of being a single parent as I am one and have been since my little boy has been 5 months old but look at the positive things in being a single parent. There are many rewards that follow. Always make sure your child knows you love them and care about them and in the end it will show.

Answer 10

There isn't really any complications. Just that it may be harder because you won't have someone there to help you with the baby at night, or when the baby is sick. There's nothing wrong with single parents. And if you really want to be a parent then you can make it through the rough times.

Answer 11

Well, if u planning to be, my advise is DON'T. Unless you have supportive family members like mum and dad, financial stable and you like kids.

How I know? Coz I was only 17 when I have my boy. I was married of coz no choice still young and my own family is very messy so I thought marry to someone is a much better choice for me, I was wrong. The marriage was with no love, first few years is ok, but slowly problems started.But I love my son alot and he also have a great impact in my life, I became very mature and start to know what kind of life I want.

I am engage now to a wonderful man, loves me and my son. The journey is not easy, coz sometimes I will pray I can turn back time, but often I know if without my son, I will not have such great success and knowing Christ thru my journey.

So please do seriously think over it and discuss with family if possible. But if u really love the baby, LOVE NEVER FAIL!!!