reason been for the past five month i have been playing pregnant and i think it is getting out of controll.plzzzzz give me some idea on how to go about telling him.
2006-11-01 11:33:27 · 20 answers · asked by kay j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but if you've been messing with his head like that, you deserve to lose him.
2006-11-01 11:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get pregnant then you WILL lose him for sure, { guys ALWAYS run from women they have impregnated out of wedlock.
Lie to a man and he will RUN, OOPS, YOU ALREADY ARE DOING THAT.
Your relationship is doomed, start to accept that fact and start to deal in the TRUTH because what is built on lies ALWAYS falls apart.
YOU NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH IMMEDIANTLY TO EVERYONE ! Go to a minister and get some help with you coming clean about this pregnancy fraud your playing.
BE thankful you are NOT pregnant. And start being abstinant until you get married or your going to get pregnant and end up with a hard HARD road ahead of you.
Life is hard enough, don't get pregnant outside of marriage and make it 5 times harder.
And make your life EASIER by telling the TRUTH ALL THE TIME !
I repeat > start TELLING THE TRUTH ALL THE TIME !
2006-11-01 11:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by old time wrestler 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you've been playing pregnant for the past 5 months, and your not, he should know you really arn't, unless he's not the brightest bulb in the box. Tell him the truth and if he dumps you oh well you shouldn't have lied in the first place to him. If he was only staying with you for the welfare of the baby i would just be glad that he was gone because he obviously didn't love you that much.
2006-11-01 11:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Caiti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him flat out. If he's willing to keep listening, then try to explain. If not, write your explanation in a letter or an email or something. But be completely honest.
Be prepared for an initial reaction which may not be his final response. He is entitled to change his mind after his first gut reaction!
If he's mad at first, he's allowed to come back and let you know why he got upset and if he wants to work things out.
If he's okay with it at first and then gets upset with you, he's allowed to do that too.
If you thought you were pregnant and then realized you weren't, tell him why you didn't tell him right away.
If you knew all along, explain to him why you wanted him to think you were pregnant.
If you had a miscarriage but didn't tell him at the time, let him know why you didn't tell him earlier.
In this situation honesty is the best policy. If you were never pregnant, don't try to get him to believe you were or that you thought you were.
Just be up front. If he loves you and is worth staying with, he'll stay with you. If not, it's best to just let him go.
Games are not fair, unless all parties are informed and willing participants!
2006-11-01 11:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's time to have a miscarraige (not sure about spelling)
tell him you lost it a few weeks back, wasnt sure how to tell him because you were afraid that he would leave you
bring on the water works, say that he is all you have and dont want to loose him,
"how did you have a miscarraige?" he asks. you were under alot of stress from something....feeling dizzy alot, then one day you had a period. apologize in between sentences but not too often, tell him you love him, tell him that you will keep trying to get pregnant again, kiss him.
but on a serious note, the relationship was doomed after the second week of you being "pregnant", just end it
good luck
2006-11-01 11:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by T B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW that's a tough question! Hasn't he notice your stomach hasn't grown or any things. What reason did you have to lie in the first place? You should tell him flat out. Unfortunately you'll lose him either way. You should have been truthful from the beginning cause now he is never going to belive anything you say
2006-11-01 11:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by NENA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
enough with the lies already. even if you cook up a story about losing the baby due to pressures, he will want to know which hospital did you go to abort the baby.
i had friends who do this and they lose their boyfriends- tell me, would you be happy if you found out you had been lied to for 5 entire months? if i were your boyfriend, i would probably be hurt thinking about the act you put on for the past months. which one is the real affectionate you?
there is a slim chance he might forgive you- and considering hes still with you for 5 months, i guess he was excited about the prospect of his own child. you have to deal with the consequences. this is a real human feeling we are talking about.
2006-11-01 11:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anna D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only solution is to tell him the truth. Eventually, he will see you aren't pregnant so sooner is better than later. I feel you need to go to a counselor for having lied about this. There is a problem. This is not normal behavior. Honey, you don't need a baby right now when you are so confused. Please get some mental health help.
2006-11-01 11:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by ruthie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. you've dug yourself into a pretty deep hole here.. I would suppose the best way to approach it is to tell him why you were playing pregnant in the first place. I mean you can't live a lie as strong as this one, he's bound to find out in ~4 months, might as well tell him now.
Hope this helps a bit.
2006-11-01 11:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot and deserve to lose him, that is not something to " play" with, it's a serious life changing situation.
But if you're gona tell him like you should have long long ago, tell him you've been having bad pains, and tell him you went to the Dr. and it was a miscarage, just don't see him for a couple days, and tell him what's happened, but you have to act sick and unavavailble to get ahold of. This way he dosen't suspect anything.
2006-11-01 11:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you playing pregnant? I'd leave you..thats bull..you dont lead the poor dude on..by telling him your preggo JUST so you can fill your relationship needs? dude..no..thats HORRIBLE...tell him...and if he doesnt leave you....omg.....sorry..theres NO easy way out of that mess unless you lie..which makes you even worse...
2006-11-01 11:40:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋